Flowery, maybe its easier if I just tell you now, while I have the chance (whilst my cake falls apart - see other thread!!)
Right.
Dh = Operations manager.
Company he works for is really pants.
There is loads I could tell you, but;
He wants to quit and I keep begging him to stay, to keep being able to pay our mortgage and keep his employment record continuous.
He worked for a very famous co, for 20 years that finally went bust. Then he worked for a small family firm that were doing dodgy deals with huge IT firm and it got out and co went bust. His last job, small family firm , were racist and wanted him to manage his staff their way, by shouting & swearing. He quit. I was cross because I knew he was unhappy but I didn't know how unhappy he was.
It took nearly 5 months for him to get another job. This was very stressful and affected our finances very badly.
Being an Ops manager is very niche. He doesn't do the food storage. He does the general,logitics, production, for small firm.
And he keeps working for nigh on family business's that have the HR knowledge of a gnat. They treat their staff badly. They would never get away with such arcaic? ways of doing things at my firm, which is part of a multi million pound group. But this seems to be the type of company that employ a ops manager like him.
I know he is a very good manager. His people skills are superb. And prvious MD's , owners of the compnay, and all his staff - both up and down, have commented that he is the best manager they have ever seen.
Soon after starting in April last year, he started negotiations to up his salry by 8k, plus pension. But meetings were just not kept. And then they ssid that they were still looking into pesnion. Then they said that they just couldn't afford it. At interview agreed a 5k bonus at Christmas, once objectives had been agreed, ie we assumed in the first month or so. But they kept saying it was too early for them to decide what his objectives were. He offered his own objectives, but they were not agreed.
At christmas, every employee was given £350. Even the 2 employees, who had really mucked up and been given disciplinarieds by dh9 see in abit). Dh thinks that they value him the same as those 2 'morons'. £350 is a bit differnt ot 5k.
The crunch is :
The lost one of their biggest contracts. They had been trying to get one for 4 years and then lost it becasue they did not follow basic ISO checks. Dh as only there a month. He went to his boss and said I don't understand this, why, what shall I do. He told him just to 'push it through'. The part was dodgy and did not comply with ISO 9001 etc etc.
All shit hit the fan.
They tried to blame dh, but he washed his hands of it and said, I asked my superior.
They gave him a disciplinary. There was a warning on a sheet of paper, not even headed. It didn't even have a place on it for both him and his manager to sign it. He had himself given two to the 2 guys who had done a major mistake re all of this - which he had done properly - headed, signed, dated etc.
He said he would not accept it. And they said, well we are putting it in your file anyway.
He should have instisted that they retracted it, or else he would not return.
But, I persuaded him to go back on the fri(last day prior to christmas) and that we could think about it over christmas.
They talk to him like dirt and ask him to do menial tasks, not worthy of a manger of 20 years. But nothing that you could actually complain about or make a tribunal out of.
One of the shareholdaers, (who used to be head of Manchester police or similar) was bought in and he runs things now. Dh's boss has been demoted to 'chasing sales' and the old MD is out on the road, trying to compensate for their complacent dealings re the lost contract.He overheard new MD saying, they have nowhere else to go.
He treats them like shit becasue he knows that they do not have another job.
I work in accounts. I could get 5 interviews tomorrow. That is just the way accounts is. But with dh it takes along time.
I keep asking him to stay and he hates it. He has lost repsect, becaus I made go back, the next day.
I am starting to feel like some money grabbing bich that only cares if the mortgage is paid. But all my friends in the past , said that now that he has a wife an child, he should not quit until he has another job.
But he started looking seriuoaly in Oct. But the market is naff over Dec- Feb. I could be asking him to stay for another few months, based on past experience of how long it takes to get his kind of job.
Then my friend said that she too, would have told them to shove it. And that no one should treat him like that.
Which is true.
How/why am I forcing him to go where they treat him like dirt, just for the sake of money?
Would value your advice.