Sick leave due to bullying?

[K8ie96]

Hi Everyone,

I will keep this as short as i can,

I have been at my current place of work for about a year and a half now and from day one i know it hasn't been right for me. I was mislead about the role but nothing has been done about it and i have been experiencing workplace mobbing as i took a grievance out on a co worker for aggressive behaviour.

There have also been complains about me that i am too quiet and i eat in my car, i have brought this to my manager and he has said there is not a problem with it but my co workers keep making sly little comments about it but i have learned to ignore this. I am always friendly with them and say hi in the morning but as i am not reception, they close the door and i hear them talking bad about me, i am sick to death of it. I have also experienced sexist comments and i have been told that in this particular branch no one stays and they hate women.

So, last week 10 minuets into my shift, a co worker made a jab at me asking me have i done a certain job (It always gets done so i don't understand why he asked this) and im thinking i have only just started my shift?? That was the last straw and i said i dont feel to good and went home. I have been told i can self certify for a week then i need a sick note, i have never went off sick before has anyone experienced this? It would be due to work related stress, if i got a sick note would they see this?

I cry every morning before work and i have thought of crashing the car, not to kill myself but just to put me out of action. I have told my parents about this but for some reason my mum says i should go back after this week and i am really starting to resent her as she knows what it is doing to me, i have even started to wake up and really get angry as soon as i open my eyes, any advice? Sorry for the rant,

Thank you
Katie

Honestly you need another job. No job is worth this

@Starlightstarbright1 Thank you for your reply, i agree, i am kicking myself for even staying as long as i have, im not even doing the job i was hired to do so really i should have left when that occurred, thank you for replying

I think you need to see your GP urgently. Thinking about self-harm is a serious matter, whether you intend to kill yourself or not.

You are very obviously describing serious work related stress symptoms so yes, you could sign off sick. You will have to provide a reason for being off sick and a GP sick note will state the cause. So yes, they will see it. But I will be honest - that won't do anything much for you. You will still have to face going back, and the return to work will loom even larger in your mind. Really, you have two real options - either submit a grievance about the work, or find another job and leave. It sounds like the latter is probably more realistic from your point of view, as if the entire workplace is this bad then it probably won't change. Why have you stayed for so long in a job that you obviously hate?

If the note stated work related stress then hr and potentially your manager would see it. Are you certain they are talking about you though, why do you eat in your car? Are you quite young or is it your first job? It is normal for a senior to double check things are being done from time to time. Are there issues with your performance?

Hi @Jalisco Thank you for your reply, honestly i have stayed because of my parents. I live with them but i am 25 so its quite sad but they seem to have this view of if i quit they win? But i think now its gone too far and i will quit

Quitting is the first step to moving onto the next thing. It's not giving up, it's giving it a go. Would it help to be on sick leave for a couple of weeks, then go back, look calmly for a new role and then resign? You can do this! Sadly there are many people out there who bully if they get away with it.

Speak to an employment lawyer about what options you've got.