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Warning a colleague about a complaint?

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Confusedabout · 16/07/2022 18:28

I know that a colleague has put a formal complaint in about another colleague. I'm really torn as I feel I should warn them. Would you?

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Ebonyhorse · 16/07/2022 18:30

Stay out

DaftyLass · 16/07/2022 18:30

Not your business

SilverPeacock · 16/07/2022 18:30

No don’t get involved as you risk getting yourself into difficulties. People often shoot the messenger.

user1471504747 · 16/07/2022 18:31

Nope, stay well out of it. If you have something to raise as a witness speak to HR/your line manager but otherwise it is nothing to do with you.

RudsyFarmer · 16/07/2022 18:35

Nope. You are putting your job at risk by getting involved. Not your circus. Not your monkeys.

Newestname002 · 16/07/2022 18:36

Yep all of this OP. Don't run the risk of landing yourself in hot water - stay clear. 🌹

Areil · 16/07/2022 18:36

No. Stay out of it.

Andromachehadabadday · 16/07/2022 18:39

Why would you be torn?

it’s not any of your business

alphapie · 16/07/2022 18:41

Unless you hate your job and want to get in trouble, stay out of it

purplecorkheart · 16/07/2022 18:46

No stay out of it. It could very well get you in trouble

Gazelda · 16/07/2022 18:50

What difference would it make if you told them? At best, it's give them more time to fret. At worst it would start stir up conflict and gossip. And you'd be (rightly) accused of breaching a confidence and look untrustworthy.

pilates · 16/07/2022 18:57

Don’t it will backfire on you.

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Confusedabout · 16/07/2022 18:58

Thanks. That's what I needed to read!

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mnahmnah · 16/07/2022 19:00

Also keep your distance from either of them in case they try to draw you into discussion about it

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Confusedabout · 16/07/2022 19:03

That's true. I don't want to get involved, I just have this guilty feeling 😞. I'll steer clear of both for a bit I think.

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AhaLyn · 16/07/2022 20:15

How do you know?

Doorhandleghost · 16/07/2022 21:21

The person will know soon enough though won't they, there's no need for them to hear it from you. For your own good definitely stay out of it.

takeitandleaveit · 16/07/2022 23:10

AhaLyn · 16/07/2022 20:15

How do you know?

Good point.

Dancingwithhyenas · 16/07/2022 23:57

Personally if colleague who was been complained about was a friend, I would absolutely tell them. Loyalty and all.

DeanStockwelll · 17/07/2022 00:11

I agree with others, stay out of it .
If you get drawn in it could messy.

The only thing I would do it if you have absolutely unrefutable proof / evidence that will corroborate or help your colleague. Then you could pass it on to HR , but even then you could get in deeper than you want to.

OnTheBoardwalk · 17/07/2022 00:12

nope stay out of it. They both could end up dragging you into the complaint

justasking111 · 17/07/2022 00:17

NO say nothing I and others were called in separately we weren't allowed to discuss it before or after action was taken against a colleague

ChicCroissant · 17/07/2022 00:17

Confusedabout · 16/07/2022 19:03

That's true. I don't want to get involved, I just have this guilty feeling 😞. I'll steer clear of both for a bit I think.

How do you know about the complaint then? If you've seen the paperwork as part of your job then no, you shouldn't say anything. But I think you've been speaking to someone about it.

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Confusedabout · 17/07/2022 07:05

I know as the other colleague told me during a conversation as they were upset. I'm not involved, they just said it.

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