How to cope with work trip away from DC?

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I have three dc (6,8 and 21 months) and have never spent more than one night away from them. I work from home nights and look after the toddler in the daytime. Work have booked me onto a course in two weeks, quite far away which means I’ll be away for three nights. I’m absolutely dreading it and feel very anxious about the whole thing. I’ve arranged childcare and their dad will be with them when he gets home from work but I still feel sick about it. Any tips for coping? Anyone else been in this position?

My dc are 8 and 10 and I would have worried at those ages too. It wa fine going out for a day without them but I didn't want to leave them overnight when they were tiny. Twice a year I go away for a weekend with a friend but I don't like being away from them for long really. 3 days will feel like a long time if you are not used to it.

Lots of people will come on here and say it's fine and you should enjoy the break, I'm sure, but it's ok to not relish it. However, You will be fine and so will they.

My tips would be agree with your dh how often he'll give you updates and when you'll speak to them. When he's away from us, he's happy with brief updates, whereas I like to know more details! Certainly when they were little - it's obviously easier now I can speak to the dc myself.

And write down any routine in detail as there's probably a lot you do without realising it, as you're the main carer.

What are you worried about?

@Xmasbaby11 thanks. I will definitely want lots of details. I know lots will say enjoy it but it’s not so easy. I think I’m most worried about the toddler because she’s quite clingy and still wakes at night.