Looking for some tips on how to handle this but work is ruining my mental health. Last week I took 5 days leave, during the leave I was called multiple times a day, with repeat calls when I ignored them. At one point I left my phone off and went out for lunch with DH to try and escape it only to return to 4 calls from the same person. As we where driving back I found myself day dreaming about crashing the car, not killing or seriously hurting anyone but how nice it would be to perhaps have a broken bone or whiplash or concussion or something minor that would mean I could spend a few days in bed in peace. I have realised this is not healthy and that over the last 6 months such day dreams have been getting more and more frequent, every weekday I wake up feeling dread and have to spend 10 minutes in the shower trying to control my breathing.
I however have no idea what to do, we cannot afford for me to quit work, due to visa issues (not in the uk) I am unlikely to find another Job. I am working for a small/medium company that has poor management and isn't doing great financially therefore a lot of responsibility that shouldn't be mine is dumped on me, I have become the oh 'forrest' will do it person but I feel like I can't say no and set boundaries because if I do they will just let me go and find another mug who will do 1000 things not in their job description for pathetic pay. Unemployment is a big issue here they will find someone to replace me and I think they take huge advantage of that.
I have discussed this with DH and he is due to get a promotion next year with a pay increase that will mean we can afford for me to quit and not bring in any money while I look at going freelance, finding a new role etc. But the thought of having to withstand this for another 12 months is to much.