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DH might loose job - but its not "his" job?

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NamechangeFML · 26/05/2022 07:53

longish post but dont want to drip

DH works for a large family owned business ( with other partners too)
He worked in an aspect of the office for years but was signed off for stress to due to it.
So he applied , and moved to another department of the business.
He was very happy there and got on well with his team and manager
( He would occasionally help his original department when it was very busy)

He was asked to RTW during lockdown , and was told it would be his original position: but temporary
DH agreed (gave him no choice, really) and had been doing it for over a year.
He absolutely hates the job, and isnt performing well ( as well as making him ill,again)

He has had meeting re: returning to his ACTUAL job, and was "allowed" to do one day a week
In the meantime - he has trained lots of staff , on the orginal job - with the hope that if enough stay: he can return to his own team and role

He is frequently stuck between two teams and two managers: both of whom will send him emails asking xyz isnt done , because hes doing something for the opposite.

He then started to be performace managed in the old job- and he was unhappy, as he was only supposed to be temporary? And then his NEWer position was unhappy with his work - but i cant see how he's expected to give 100% to 2 completely different roles?

So he got " caught" reading an article online a few days ago by a Boss, and now theres talk of "big meetings " "gross misconduct " with no date in mind- just to make him even more ill!!
( unless it was porn- i think this is a massive overreaction from his employers)

His "HR" seems to be one of the Family so its not legal ( i think!) or helpful to him.

I feel like theyre trying to constructively dismiss him? But i don't understand why they think they are being reasonable?

what can i do to help ? ( theres no union) Hes makind more mistakes, and spiralling

OP posts:
TheThreadisMildlyAmusing · 26/05/2022 10:59

Well if he loses his job it sounds like it will be a blessing in disguise as it will force him to look for another job. He really needs to start being proactive and getting his CV updated and registering with employment agencies and looking at vacancies online.

If you lose your new build, there will be others and if house prices start to drop (which is a distinct possibility) you might find you pay less for another property later on. Either way, your DH's mental health is more important than a mortgage at the moment.

Hoppinggreen · 26/05/2022 11:16

summer712 · 26/05/2022 10:13

Is he a member of a union he can ask for help and advice.

Says not in the OP

CatsAreCrackers · 26/05/2022 11:46

He needs to have a meeting with both his managers and their manager and be firm with them and get it sorted out. He's being pulled in two directions and there needs to be some compromise / understanding of priorities - from everyone.

With regards to whatever he was reading, that doesn't seem to make sense, unless there is a ban on personal internet usage during working hours? What exactly was he looking at? Something work related or was he just wasting time on something personal, which obviously wouldn't look good. Is it something he has been pulled up on before? A one off of reading a news article seems overkill of it being gross misconduct.

Thebeastofsleep · 26/05/2022 13:58

NamechangeFML · 26/05/2022 08:46

For everyone asking re mortage. Weve a new build waiting to start in Winter , so may loose it

Well if he's fired you'll definitely lose it. Where as a job change shouldn't be a huge issue.

NamechangeFML · 26/05/2022 21:56

Hes going this start looking for a new position

OP posts:
Crazylazydayz · 28/05/2022 10:35
  1. Look for a new job.
  2. Letter to both managers and HR advising he applied for job 2 and was successful. Understand issues with COVID but now back to normal he is entitled to return to job 2 full time wef 6 June. Advise that being expected to do both Job 1 and job 2 are adversely impacting his health and requesting to be referred to OH.
  3. He must make sure he doesn’t do anything non-work related at work.
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