Partner reluctant for me to work post pregnancy

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Hi all of you out there,
I wondered if I could get some advice on a situation that I’m currently in…
I have a 15 month old baby who will start nursery in August. I currently work only one day a week and am hoping to pick up at least an additional day.
My partner is currently receiving income support and, as we have recently moved apartments, is also renting out the apartment which he owns.
He tells me repeatedly that I should be grateful for him providing more money than me, but does not want me to earn my own money as he thinks it’s unfair if he has to look after our son any more than he does. I understand that he does not want to do the lions share with our son and usually I have to bargain that if I go to work he gets to have an evening or day free to do something that he likes to do.
I don’t live in the same country as my family so cannot ask anyone for child care help but his family live in walking distance from us.
I don’t know what to do. I feel a little trapped and helpless. Has anyone experienced anything similar after pregnancy?

So he thinks that money he gives you to support his child means he doesn’t have to look after them? So in his head your just someone he pays to take care of his kid? And he can opt out of parenting when he likes? He doesn’t even work either so other than cleaning his apartment in between guests what does he actually do?

Struggling to understand why you had a child with this man?

I think you should as Mumsnet to move this thread to relationships as that's your biggest problem here.

There is absolutely no point in asking her why she had a baby with him.

There is also a 'Living Overseas' board that might be useful for specific questions about where you are living.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/living_overseas

He’s awful, make plans to leave him