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My manager thinks I'm cool as a cucumber but I'm so stressed and I don't know how to communicate it

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spuddy56 · 17/05/2022 20:30

I have somehow put on a front at work that makes others assume I can handle all sorts, not get stressed, not cry etc. The last few months have seen my workload increase insanely in a job that is still very new to me. There's a huge shortage of people in the team so lots of people are stepping up beyond their roles and there's generally a lot of pressure. I know my manager is under a lot of stress and pressure as well.

I've been crying in the evenings at least twice a week, I feel so lost and overwhelmed with how much there is to do, there's been very little training and support and it's remote work which has made it harder to pick things up. Questions I ask the team get ignored for days/weeks and it's mentally exhausting trying to chase simple answers on systems that are exclusive to the company and I couldn't possibly know the answer to from any other source.

I've started making small mistakes in areas that shouldn't even be my responsibility anyway, whilst my main area of work is being neglected. I don't know how to communicate this with my manager. I don't want him to think I'm disorganised and incapable, in a way I do like the added pressure and the opportunity to get wider experience but I feel like I'm doing everything badly at the moment by spreading myself too thin and trying to juggle so many things. I don't know how to communicate honestly that I can't cope without coming across as just moaning. I'm also worried that if it's in person I might actually just cry and not even get any words out. I really don't know what to do.

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Ridingoutthewaves · 17/05/2022 20:33

Write a email and tell them, I can see why you’re worried, but most managers are reasonable and will want to help. Write what you wrote obo e just edited a bit and ask for a meeting to discuss your workload.

User220422 · 18/05/2022 21:10

I agree with the above about writing an email to them. It's an easy way to get your point across in a clear and concise manner.

If you have a good manager, they will most likely be happy you spoke up, and shocked that they never noticed.

Take it from someone who knows, if you bottle it up for too long and put on a brave face for too long, at some point you will just break down. Best to get it addressed now than to have it completely overwhelm you one day.

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