Commuting

[Flowergirlx]

Hi everyone I am hoping that someone can give me some advice so 6 months ago my family and I made a new business adventure which has resulted in me travelling 2hrs a day for work, I currently do 4 days at work and 1 working from home. Now whilst I considered the future and children before the big move I thought we would have more time to adjust and think of a solution to the commuting.

My issue is that I found out a few days ago that I am pregnant and whilst I am very excited (I am a go with the flow type person) my partner is very much panicking about me commuting after having the baby, to the point he thinks we shouldn’t be having a baby.

Of course commuting with a child is not going to be easy at all but this is something that has happened. Of course it being my own business and family run too I have a bit of leeway with my shift and although. I only travel 4 days now I will be looking at dropping some days and working from home instead my job role is mainly paperwork related anyway.

I would just like to here what everyone else thinks and how I could go about speaking to my partner about this I feel so so stuck.

My gut reaction here is that your partner perhaps doesn't want or isn't ready for a child. Travelling isn't great sure but not a big enough reason to terminate a child you're happy to be having.
I'm sure you can/could reduce your time and work more from home given its a family business.

What on earth is he panicking about? An hour each way is a pretty standard commute, especially in London, and I assure you that many of us have babies. Sometimes more than 1. I was doing 90 mins each way when I went back to work after my first, although that was in the dark days when WFH was by exception. Seriously, what even is the issue?

Gosh sorry guys i worded that wrong my journey is 2hrs each way

This is my thought’s I understand a 2 hr car journey with a baby is going to be extremely hard however I am hoping by the end of maternity leave we will be in slightly more of a routine.

The bonus I have is obviously not having to pay for childcare, as it is a family business and the baby is able to come with me so my family are more than happy to watch the baby whilst I do some work.

I really feel like this isn’t something that can be planned very much sort of a you figure it out as you go along.

Well its a tricky situation as we have had multiple conversations over the past 6 months about having children and none of these concerns that he has clearly had for a while have been brought up until now when I have fallen pregnant. So i feel a bit blind sided as although we hadn’t physically been trying we also wasn’t being careful.

where does he work? can't he do some childcare/nursery drop off?