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Is this bullying?

16 replies

user980098141 · 29/04/2022 19:08

My daughter works in a team of six. She works part time hours due to an illness which classes as a disability. She works 10-2 Monday to Friday. She doesn't work any overtime
Her colleagues all work full time (and overtime occasionally). They moan constantly about her working pattern. When she greets them in the morning, they don't even reply with a hello they just tell her how busy they were after she left.
She loves her job but yesterday came home crying she had overheard a few of her colleagues talking about the new manager that is starting next week and how they all need to complain about her hours and that she needs to do overtime too. Now she is worried that the new manager won't have a good impression of her if everyone moans about her hours and that she isn't a team player.
She suffers with anxiety and she feels that everyone hates her.

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TheSnowyOwl · 29/04/2022 19:09

Bullying in the workplace is about how it is perceived. If your daughter thinks she is being bullied, then she is.

Lurkerlot · 29/04/2022 19:10

It’s bullying.

BlanketsBanned · 29/04/2022 19:11

It sounds awful has it been reported to the manager and head office. What sort of work is kt, how long has she worked there.

Dillydollydingdong · 29/04/2022 19:13

It could be classed as disability discrimination.
Legal advice would be for her to raise a grievance, but maybe speak to HR informally first.

user980098141 · 29/04/2022 19:19

BlanketsBanned · 29/04/2022 19:11

It sounds awful has it been reported to the manager and head office. What sort of work is kt, how long has she worked there.

She works in retail and has worked there for nearly 4 years. She hasn't reported anything.

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thefirstmrsrochester · 29/04/2022 19:22

It absolutely is bullying and your dd should keep a record of this and speak to HR.

ILoveYouMoreTheEnd · 29/04/2022 19:23

That's awful, does she get on well with the current manager? Could she have a chat before they go and do a handover and make the new manager aware of the situation. Its disgusting the team are doing this, bullying and excluding from a simple good morning is pathetic. Hugs xxx

BlanketsBanned · 29/04/2022 20:06

She is protected in law, would she feel confident to speak to HR or occupational health, the others sound awful, they have a playground bullying mentality and it shouldnt be tolerated. The best thing would be if they went with their nonsense to the new manager, were given stern warnings and threatenened with disciplinary action if it continues.

RandomMess · 29/04/2022 20:25

Well her colleagues aren't very bright are they?

Your DD role is pretty much lunch cover and assisting with the busiest time of the day. She works part time and gets paid part time hours Angry

Exclusion and ignoring is bullying.

PenelopeLively · 29/04/2022 21:35

As pp said exclusion and ignoring is bullying.

PenelopeLively · 29/04/2022 21:37

Also discussing her hours like that and complaining should be pulled up.

JenniferAlisonPhilipaSue · 30/04/2022 11:51

She needs to put a complaint in writing to HR that this is harassment based on disability, which is illegal under the Equality Act 2010.

PenelopeLively · 30/04/2022 12:39

Yes can’t quite believe none of her managers have pulled them up over this. Your daughter is and should be protected from this behaviour in the workplace. Hope she’s okay today op.

AlexaShutUp · 30/04/2022 12:44

TheSnowyOwl · 29/04/2022 19:09

Bullying in the workplace is about how it is perceived. If your daughter thinks she is being bullied, then she is.

I disagree that people are being bullied simply if they perceive that they are being bullied. People quite often claim to be being bullied when they are subjected to reasonable performance management measures, for example. They might well perceive that they are being bullied in that scenario, but it doesn't actually mean that they are.

However, what the OP describes does sound like bullying and it needs to be addressed. I never understand the resentment that some full time staff seem to have towards part time workers. Do they not realise that the part time workers get paid for fewer hours.Confused

TheSnowyOwl · 30/04/2022 13:01

AlexaShutUp · 30/04/2022 12:44

I disagree that people are being bullied simply if they perceive that they are being bullied. People quite often claim to be being bullied when they are subjected to reasonable performance management measures, for example. They might well perceive that they are being bullied in that scenario, but it doesn't actually mean that they are.

However, what the OP describes does sound like bullying and it needs to be addressed. I never understand the resentment that some full time staff seem to have towards part time workers. Do they not realise that the part time workers get paid for fewer hours.Confused

The OP asked if her daughter was being bullied and based on the information given, if she feels it’s bullying then she has grounds to take it further as such.

PenelopeLively · 30/04/2022 18:21

I think @AlexaShutUp is right, I’ve experienced that and it’s a bullying tactic in itself however I do think op’s daughter is being treated differently and her manager should be managing this situation. People should not be humiliated in work.

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