I manage someone and am only slightly senior to her but have to sign off training, annual leave, other leaves and absences. The content of these emails is always very ambiguous and in them she will ask me to approve something or other with a few other things concealed in the writing. An example would be 'I'm going to find out about patient x from ward A tomorrow morning and then I want to write that up' . What this really translates to is I am working from home tomorrow, when this isn't really compatible with our job and the speed with which we can be pulled off any task. No other staff member will know where she is, she will not write in in her out-of-office, she will imply she is on annual leave. She refuses emails and phonecalls when working from home. I have tried to clarify her requests but this has led to compliants that I am on the autistic spectrum or overly conscientious. I'm not, I do my hours and that's that. However this is every time she is challenged and I work in a profession where the truth of these claims is not looked into. Trying to manage her is a nightmare, but its a risky area and she can't not be managed either. This is affecting my wellbeing and my family life. Any attempt to manager her results in vexatious complaints but this is seen as a lot of he said she said (she and she in this instance) and goes nowhere. I find it very cruel and, at times it has bordered on emotional abuse. I trained elsewhere so am seen as an outsider, and this is part of the issue. Any advice? Anyone been in a similar situation?
It's often mentioned incidentally in an email which ends with an entreaty to respond with 'yes that's fine'. , that's all alright isn't it? her