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Still unhappy with work

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malificent7 · 24/04/2022 13:49

I posted here a month ago about the fact that i'm newly qualified and had been managed out of my first healthcare job. Got another one and omg i am having ups and downs.
I passed probation but then a few consultants moaned about me.
Managers had a meeting with me. I rectified said mistakes but a few weeks later said mistakes were made again...and i lost a piece of kit for the 3rd time as i was so nervous about loosing lit. You pin it on scrubs and it went in the wash.
Looking back I am very anxious and terrified of loosing my job in this climate. I am hoping to go to an HR listening event tomorrow. Not sure what to say. This is not the introduction to my career that I longed for.
I am simply shit at what I do and feel so despondent.
For context I am also peri menopausal with attendant achy joints and brain fog and throughout this dd has been suffering with extreme anxiety and panic attacks resulting in trips to a and e.

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Solosunrise · 25/04/2022 14:10

I'm bumping this for you as I've seen you have no replies @malificent7
I also have menopausal brain fog and really struggled getting to grips with a new job a year ago. Took me ages to master simple things as there was so much information coming at me all at once.
Did you get to the listening event? I'm not sure what it is but I hope it was helpful Flowers

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malificent7 · 25/04/2022 18:33

Thank you solosunrise. The listening went well. The lady i spoke to acknowledged that many women at work are going through the menopause and that me working 3 weeks straight without a break is unacceptable.
I then had a meeting with my line manager ( who is the real issue) and on one hand she said I've improved so why bring up issues and on the other hand I shouldn't want to work in a bigger hospital as I can't even master the basics with this one! Cheers love! (i got on really well with my last placement in a big hospital! But sadly didnt get past the interview.

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Solosunrise · 26/04/2022 07:27

Hello @malificent7 Three weeks straight has got to be unacceptable!
Your line manager sounds like she needs to develop a few skills herself Confused
It sounds like menopause support would be in order, and for you to take on board the comment that you have improved Flowers

I felt similarly in my job. It took me a good six months to get to the point of conscious competence and I'm still waiting unconscious competence a year on!

Was this a career change for you?

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malificent7 · 26/04/2022 09:50

Yes it was a career change from teaching and I'm very passionate about it. I got a first for the academic side but it is more of a practical side i struggle with.

She knows that my daughter has panic attacks and yesterday in our meeting said that i am a stressy person and maybe my daughter has panic attacks because of picking up on my stress. I know she might be right but.....ouch!

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malificent7 · 26/04/2022 18:10

So I had a meeting with HR and nice line manager but i dont trust them...agggggrrr!

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Solosunrise · 26/04/2022 18:13

Whoaaaa....line manager tactless or what?
I have learnt not to share personal details at all at work now Flowers

Was this another meeting?

Alfiemoon1 · 26/04/2022 18:21

I feel the same op. I recently started a new job struggled to get to grips with it and am peri menopausal. Had loads of stress in my personal life dd getting back with her abusive boyfriend ddog has torn his cruiciate ligament so needed surgery. Felt like all I received was negative comments nothing at all positive so that knocked my confidence and made me anxious. Already has peri anxiety. I applied for another job and got it so handed my notice in today and am now stressing I won’t like this one or be any good at it either. So no advice just a hand hold from me

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malificent7 · 27/04/2022 19:15

Thank you so much. In a short space of time ( 5 months) since I've been there the following has happened:
My line manager worked from home the 2nd week i was there instead of supporting me in my new job.

Did my 1st bit of solo working and was told to call or text her if i needed help. I called her with a minor question...i was told i should have figured it out myself. I was then told at a later date to ask any question no matter how small rather than figuring it out myself!

After said bit of solo weekend working the computer systems changed over and all the machines stopped working properly. My line manager said it must have been my fault as i was the last person to use machine...it was proven to be false...it was the computer changeover!

I was asked to work 3 weeks in a row.

I was told I shouldn't tell people I was newly qualified ( prob as i new i should be supported better).

I was told that I shouldn't have been so long in hospital during my on call weekend ( as they didn't want to pay me double time!).

Tbh there are some good points:

Lovely support staff, love the patients, family friendly shifts. Errrr.....

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Solosunrise · 29/04/2022 07:02

I think you have a management problem, not a 'you' problem Flowers
Can you look elsewhere?
Or just keep your head down, remind yourself it's just a job, and know that you'll soon develop your confidence and competence, and then you'll wonder what you found so hard!
Best of luck 😊

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malificent7 · 29/04/2022 12:43

I am applying for a job elsewhere. Do I have to ask my manager for a reference,?

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