Colleague's treatment of me

[Kaleandcucumber]

Hi All,

I've name changed for this as I really need some advice. I started a new role about 6 months ago with more responsibility with a new employer. I'm mostly enjoying the job and feel like I'm doing well. I've had really good feedback from some of the senior staff I work with and also been told the junior staff find me helpful and approachable. However there is a colleague I have an issue with and it seems to be growing.

She has previously worked in the team I am now but now does another job. She tries to take jobs from me that aren't covered by her role. Withholds information from me and will only give it to other members of my team. It feels like she's actively trying to cut me out. However I've let things slide until now as I'm a fairly strong character and can brush it off.

However I've now found out that she's been telling more junior members of staff not to listen to me and that I have no clue what I'm doing. I feel like this makes sense as some of the attitudes people have had towards me have been really off at times. For example on my last shift 1 member of the team had an attitude with me all morning. I carried on as I normally would and eventually they came round I think because they may have realised that actually I am capable of doing the job and like to work as a team player. This has not been a one off unfortunately.

A bit of a ramble I know but I'm a bit stuck as to what to do. She has worked there for a very long time and it's really hard to know who she is pally with. I'm trying to work it out but it's hard as I don't like to gossip etc.

Has anyone got some helpful advice or encouragement please? It's starting to really get me down.

I would raise this with your manager, having first made a note of all the occasions this has happened with dates. They should be the one to have a conversation with this person, as it sounds like for one reason or another she is finding it hard to let her old role go. How do you know she has been telling people these things about you, do you have proof or is this conjecture?

@DarlingCoffee

I would raise this with your manager, having first made a note of all the occasions this has happened with dates. They should be the one to have a conversation with this person, as it sounds like for one reason or another she is finding it hard to let her old role go. How do you know she has been telling people these things about you, do you have proof or is this conjecture?

I will start to jot things down with dates and times. I also have a couple of messages from a work message thread too which I will screen shot. I have a meeting with my manager in a couple of weeks time for an appraisal etc so will talk to then then. I want to just ask out right what their problem is bit I feelvlike I may have to look at the long game here.

I unfortunately don't have proof but I do trust the man who told me. He isn't one for gossip, is level headed and has had a similar experience with this person.

Take no prisoners.
Go to management/escalate to HR - tell them exactly what youve seen and heard and how do they intend to deal with it?
I started a job a few years ago and a team member was badmouthing me to another team i dont work with directly- so they all started to pile on ,nit picking when theyd never acting worked alongside me. I heard it had been brought up in a meeting, and my manager hadnt approached me about it. I went nuclear. Told manager id expect her to at least informally caught up with me , if the feedback was so awful, pointed out i was the only "new hire" of a very old team and if i heard one more piece of unsubstantiated gossip, id be at HR for bullying.
Some managers just cant actually "manage"

@Kaleandcucumber don’t wait for your appraisal, and I would recommend this should not form part of your appraisal. I would address this with your manager this week if you are able to and can get your notes together. I would also have a quiet word with this other man and ask if he would be willing to confirm what has also been happening in confidence to your manager following your meeting. You are raising a formal grievance here, and this kind of behaviour from this lady needs to be stopped immediately.