Dreaded Sunday night feeling

[Beansprout30]

I’m in my fourth week of a new job, it’s my first management position, totally new to me and the lady who’s been handing over has done nothing but criticise me and point out mistakes. My confidence is shot to pieces and I’m dreading going in tomorrow

I spoke to her last week and explained how I was feeling and it’s out her in a foul mood and there is the most awful atmosphere. She is leaving soon but i feel like I’ve learnt nothing from her and I’m slowly drowning in work I don’t know how to do!

Can you talk to your line manager?

You can do this! Can you speak to anyone else about how you are feeling? Why are they leaving soon? Did they struggle to understand the job role themselves?

Can you learn from anyone else?. Maybe pull away from her a bit so you can take your time and learn how to do things your way, doesnt sound like shes been that supportive of you anyway. Do you have a catch up time with your mamager, that would be a good opportunity to explain how youve found your last few weeks

Go to whoever is above her and explain how she's treating you and how she's made you feel and try and get support from them. She's leaving soon so try and remember that to get you through.

I regularly train people as part of my job, I've currently got 2 trainees at the same time on shift with me, every shift, and it can be stressful but I just couldn't imagine being awful to them and having a negative affect on their confidence.
Nobody walks into a new workplace/job and immediately knows everything there is to know, it takes time. She's an arsehole!

I have a feeling you'll be much happier and start finding your feet in your role when the handing over woman has left and you can fly solo.

In the meantime, talk to your manager and get support from them.

She’s coming up to retirement and has been in the job temporarily whilst a permanent replacement was found. She didn’t apply for it herself but I feel like actually she was hoping she would be asked to stay on and she wasn’t and she doesn’t want me to have the job

I spoke to my line manager last week who was so supportive, she said she knows I’m capable and that the other lady is leaving as soon as we’ve replaced another member of the team who’s leaving this week.

Last week I ended up just working on my own and felt like I made more progress in two days than in three weeks with her. I just feel like she’s checking my work behind me and I can’t fully get on how I want to while she’s there finishing her hits and causing an atmosphere.

I know I need to just get through this week really but I feel pretty lonely there now and almost wishing I hadn’t left my job which I loved before