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Need to hand notice in tomorrow… Shit.

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ListenLinda · 27/02/2022 19:28

I’ve been offered a job and verbally accepted, signed the contract, given a start date.
I get on well with my colleagues and manager so I have been psyching myself up all weekend to ask to speak to her tomorrow so give my notice and have ‘that chat’ … just about ready for tomorrow.
I’ve gone to bath DS and he is covered in red spots. (DD just recovered from chicken pox)
What god awful timing!
I need to tell her tomorrow when I call to say I can’t come in because DS has chicken pox don’t I?
I wanted to do it face to face but it can’t wait until I am back in the office as the new company wants me to start in 4 weeks time…
Is this acceptable? What can or should I do?!
Any advice?

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CheshireSplat · 27/02/2022 19:31

Just do it. One day it will all be history.

I've just handed my notice in and was dreading it. I signed my new contract in advance so there was no way I could back out, chicken out.

Well done, you've got this!

CheshireSplat · 27/02/2022 19:33

Also, however lovely your manager, within 5 seconds she'll/he'll be thinking what does this mean for me, how do I replace Linda, and she'll be moving on.

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ListenLinda · 27/02/2022 19:33

I would of done it face to face but as I said… it can’t wait til next week. I feel like a complete cow telling her over the phone the following with an email.

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MikeWozniaksMohawk · 27/02/2022 19:35

I had to do it over the phone relatively recently as we were still all home working. It just had to be done. It was awkward I will admit, but it was the only option.

PortalooSunset · 27/02/2022 19:36

Do you have a partner who could look after ds for you tomorrow so you can still do it face to face? Otherwise yes, polite to mention it during your call before confirming in writing.
The last few times I've had to do this it has been an open secret that I was looking for other opportunities so it wasn't a big shock to anyone. Before that I was made redundant so didn't really apply!

onthinice · 27/02/2022 19:40

It will be absolutely fine. Do you communicate via teams or any other video meeting software? I just called my boss on teams and told them I was leaving. If I were you I'd do the phone call about your absence first thing in the morning as standard, and then phone her again a little later to explain about handing in your notice. Or preferably call on teams for a face to face chat before emailing official notice.

MaizeAmaze · 27/02/2022 19:41

Anyone who can look after DS tomorrow while you go in, and also mention the Chicken pox, and work out how the time off will be taken?

Better now than on the first day of new job!

Chocomelon · 27/02/2022 19:44

Just do it. You can easily explain that you were going to have the conversation in person but cannot go in now.

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ListenLinda · 27/02/2022 19:45

Everyone else is working and DH is away with work tomorrow so the next few days, otherwise I would have asked DH if he could take tomorrow.

I think i’ll obviously call and explain about the chicken pox. I don’t know whether to just get it over with on the same call or ask if she has 15 minutes free in an hour or so to have a proper chat?
We would communicate via teams if we were at home but we are back in the open plan office…

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IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 27/02/2022 19:48

Just do it. She probably thank you for not coming in when you have a child with CP. it doesn’t change what you have to tell her, abs we are all used to things happening remotely now.

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ListenLinda · 27/02/2022 19:51

You’re right it doesn’t change anything I have to say and would still have to ask her for a chat in front of everyone tomorrow morning.
As I said, it can’t wait until I am back in the office so there is no other way around it.

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Aquamarine1029 · 27/02/2022 19:54

This really isn't a big deal. People leave their jobs all the time. Your manager won't even bat an eye.

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ListenLinda · 27/02/2022 19:58

I think it’s the manner of which I need to do it. I think most people have the face to face and then official letter/email.
I think i’m going to ask if we can have a teams call in private at some time in the morning after I call her.

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CheshireSplat · 28/02/2022 03:46

Good luck OP. I wanted to do it face to face too, but ended up needing to do it on a certain day, so had to ambush my boss when he was in Dubai airport. Not ideal but gave him something to think about on the plane.

At least WFH has meant we are all more used to having serious conversations over Teams.

I think it's a good idea to ask for a few minutes later as you'll need to ring early about the chicken pox but maybe let her get her Monday morning underway before breaking this news.

Do you have the written notice ready to send as a follow up?

SalsaLove · 28/02/2022 03:56

Just acknowledge up front that it’s rotten timing. That will take the sting out of it. Good luck with your new job!

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ListenLinda · 28/02/2022 06:14

I did have it written out but i’ll type it up on to an email while i’m setting up this morning.

Thanks for all the advice, I just need to do it and get it over with!

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wingscrow · 28/02/2022 07:18

Speak to them on the phone briefly and then follow this with sending your written notice by email with today's date.

Remember that you company would not hesitate for a minute to let you know in any way they chose if they were planning to make you redundant...

You don't owe them anything and your are simply following procedures by notifying them that you are leaving. It is not usually specified that this has to be done face to face.

AlexaShutUp · 28/02/2022 07:22

Just say it. Tell her that you're gutted that you can't come in today as you had wanted to tell her this in person, but you can't so you'll have to do it over the phone.

It's OK. People move on to other jobs. Most managers accept this. I'm sure it will be fine.

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ListenLinda · 28/02/2022 09:51

All done! Thanks everyone :)

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MikeWozniaksMohawk · 28/02/2022 10:21

How did it go @ListenLinda ?

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ListenLinda · 28/02/2022 10:39

My manager was lovely about it. She sounded really pleased for me, and she said she understands. She is content as she is nearing retirement and I have 30+ years to work. She congratulated me and said just follow up with the email so we can get the ball rolling. I apologised for not doing it in person and she said it is what it is.

Then I got a nice little gift in the post from my new company
Just waiting for them to ask for the reference info and then we are on the countdown…

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MikeWozniaksMohawk · 28/02/2022 10:53

Excellent. Really pleased it went well for you. Your manager sounds lovely.

CheshireSplat · 28/02/2022 21:34

Brilliant! Well done and what a relief.

tiktokontheclock · 01/03/2022 09:00

@Aquamarine1029

This really isn't a big deal. People leave their jobs all the time. Your manager won't even bat an eye.

This. In the nicest way OP, they won't care as much as you think, it's a job and they will replace you - and you shouldn't care as you are moving on!

Unless you're angling for a counter offer?

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ListenLinda · 01/03/2022 09:14

@tiktokontheclock I resigned yesterday. And it wasn’t about the fact I was resigning, it was that I wanted to speak to my manager face to face but I can’t go in this as DS has chicken pox. I wanted to know if it would be acceptable to speak to her over the phone or if I would appear rude.

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