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Am I in the wrong?

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Cakeybubblespink · 15/02/2022 18:33

Hiya, this is my first ever post so I hope I'm doing thing properly.

I feel really deflated and I just wanted anyone's advice to see if I am in the wrong.

I have a 5 year old ds and a 8 month old dd. After my maternity leave I decided that I wasn't sure if I wanted to go back to my job I had been at for 3 years working for the nhs nothing wrong with the job I just fancied a change in my career.

I applied for a job in a local doctors surgery that was part time and they called me about arranging an interview, at this point I didn't know much about the job apart from it was local doctors surgery and it was part time the lady I spoke to over the phone was really nice and said just come in for an interview and we can have a chat and discuss everything.

Anyway sorry about the waffling but to get the point I went to the interview today and firstly was made to wait half an hour before I even saw anyone but that was fine, I was interviewed by two people one was the practice manager she was very abrupt with her questions and I didn't take a warming to her she explained that they would need me to work 3 days a week each day at a different practice, and that the pay would be much less than I already get paid. At the end of the interview she said i don't ussually do this but I would like to offer you the job. I said 'thankyou that's great I just need a little time to think about it and go through the hours with my mum as she will be looking after my children' she said that's great I'm going to have some lunch then I will give you a call and see how you feel.

When i got home I went through the positives and negatives and decided the job wasn't for me. So when she called I said thankyou for the opportunity but I don't think this job is the best suit for me, then after that her tone completely changed she asked why and I said the travelling wouldn't suit me and the pay isn't what I was looking for. She then raised her voice saying ' just some advice for the future before you have an interview think about what you want first as you have wasted all morning for me and my colleuge and we've just spent half our lunch break sorting out shifts for you, I'm actually disgusted in you I'm glad you have declined the job' I was gobsmacked i said I'm really sorry you feel like this but to me an interview works both ways It gives you a chance to see if you want me and me a chance to see if the job suits me she responded with ' well thanks for being a time waster, you will not be welcome for a job here in the future' and hung the phone up on me.
The reason I'm posting this is since having my dd I have really lost my confidence and this was my first interview in a long time and I really didn't feel that I did anything wrong? I thought letting someone know 1 hour after an interview that it wasn't for me wasn't time wasting. My mum told me just to forget about it, but I have anxiety and its really playing on my mind its made me feel like an idiot and knocked my confidence for future interviews.

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Honey83 · 15/02/2022 20:50

This is disgraceful. I can't believe what I just read. Beyond unprofessional. She is lucky that you never raised a complaint.
It was a first interview. Where you are going to presumably be told about the role and the conditions in further detail. 'I'm actually disgusted in you and I'm glad you've declined the job'! Getting personal was just unnecessary.

cherrypiepie · 15/02/2022 20:50

She sounds unhinged!

I would be shocked by that top op so don't feel too bad for being shaken up! Lucky escape.

whysoserious123 · 15/02/2022 22:29

[quote Cakeybubblespink]@whysoserious123
Thanks. I was so shocked when she reacted like that I was really lost for words. After the phone call though I was sitting thinking of all the things I wish I had said 🙊[/quote]
I know what you mean but honestly not reacting is the best medicine she could have. People like that love an argument Grin

Midlander88 · 15/02/2022 22:38

Honestly would have told her to f-off! Well done for spotting the warning signs in the interview, but my God, that is beyond a lucky escape! Imagine the poor desperate person that ends up taking the job... Good God, imagine their first day calling in sick!!

ElinoristhenewEnid · 15/02/2022 23:10

Sounds like a manager

ElinoristhenewEnid · 15/02/2022 23:10

Sounds like a practice manager I knew!

TTstormtrooper · 15/02/2022 23:18

What a lucky escape! I can't believe her attitude TBH. Especially after being 30 minutes late! The cheek of it!

It's very common where I work for people to change their mind about a position. Like you said it's as much for you as it is for them!

CheshireSplat · 16/02/2022 05:23

When I was thinking about changing my job during mat leave, I was given some really good advice to stay. This was on the basis that I might be returning to work sleep deprived, needing to take time off with an ill child etc. If that was the case, a new employer would only know me as someone sleep deprived who wasn't 100% reliable but my current employer would know I was good at my job and reliable, so would cut me some slack. It was good advice for me (I left after a year once I'd paid back my mat leave it as I wasn't happy) but it was the right thing for me. As you've said your manager is lovely, maybe think about this as it could make the return to work less stressful?

Mattieandmummy · 16/02/2022 07:07

Can you imagine if you had actually taken that job... Very very lucky escape! Part of my role at work is recruitment and I would never speak to someone like that. You absolutely did the right thing to turn that job down.

chaosrabbitland · 16/02/2022 07:32

blimey they had their hopes pinned on you didnt they lol ?

i wouldnt give this any more thought , im in retail and sometimes i see jobs offered with no pay details and often no shift times avaliable either , if i went to an interview and they told me the shifts were going to be 2 pm to 8 pm id be declining it straight away , its time wasting on their part as these companies need to put the details there for applicants to see

Cakeybubblespink · 16/02/2022 12:49

Thankyou everyone for re assuring me. @CheshireSplat I've had a long think about it and I have decided I am going to back to my previous job for now, And have a rethink at the end of the year what I want to do. I actually feel happy this experience has happened because it has reminded me how good I had it at my job. I have spoken to my manager and Its half term where I am so I'm going enjoy the rest of the week off with my children and start next week. Thankyou everyone you have made me feel much better about everything and helped me not let it knock my confidence💐♥️ I'm still nervous for next time I go to the doctors but I'm sure I will overcome that.

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