Work office/etiquette

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I am quite new in my role but have a lot of experience but I am finding it hard to know what my role is and what is expected as there has been a lot of talk about things but no action. There have been a lot of staff changes which has added to the problems, and my gut instinct is that this isn't the role for me. I feel that I am working hard and have picked up new tasks well and generally make a good effort but have quite an uncomfortable feeling with some people that I just can't get to grips with. My line manager asked me this week why I have my office door shut, last month it was why do I have it open..? There has been some overlap of work and even tasks that I have been given, started to work on which have then been given to someone else, without even a discussion. Some conversations have felt quite condescending. In many ways I feel that I have taken a step back in terms of my workload and previous jobs. I feel like I am being difficult, please help with a sense check/some perspective

book a meeting with your line manager and explain.

Agree with PP, I would definitely prefer if someone reporting into me told me if they were feeling like this, then I could try to clear up some of your queries.

Can you give a bit more detail on the condescending conversations?

I think it can be management styles and my manager does this from time to time and is harsh but you kind of get used to their tone and don’t take it personally.. you are trying your best and working hard. Maybe ask for a meeting to discuss progress so far?

I would definitely raise the workload being reallocated with your manager. That’s not something you should second guess, you need clear guidance on whether you made an error, whether they made an error with the allocation, whether there’s a new process etc

However I think the rest of it you’re going to have to wing it and be flexible. Have your door open sometimes, not all the time. Play it by ear, maybe your manager thinks your door shut all the time is you being unsociable, but you should close it if working on X task or attending Y meeting

Likewise with them being condescending, it’s hard to prove and you raising it may get their back up. It could be a difference of opinion. I would let bygones be bygones and if it continues, then try and speak to them via email so you have proof of their behaviour

last month it was why do I have it open..

Did something trigger them saying this to you?