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How do I deal with this?

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darksideofthemooncup · 23/01/2022 12:34

I've recently started a new role 3 weeks after someone else, we are both part of the same team and my understanding was that due to my age and experience I was there as the senior member of that team.
However, I am becoming increasingly aware that her 3 week head start on me has given her the impression that she is in charge of me.
I have been working longer than she has been alive but she is forever pointing out that she 'trained' me and how despite her age she has 'tons' of experience .
This is her 3rd job since leaving school and she is extremely capable, bright and hardworking, I am trying very hard not to patronise her or take anything away from her but the constant digs are beginning to grate.
We have to work together so I'm keen not to alienate her but how do I handle this going forward?

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toppkatz · 23/01/2022 12:35

Smile, keep your head down and get on with your work.

She'll trip herself up soon enough.

darksideofthemooncup · 23/01/2022 12:59

Thank you TopKatz, that's exactly what I needed to hear!
She has just posted some post on LinkedIn about how being young means you are discriminated against, I don't have the heart to tell her how much discrimination 50 something women have to deal with in the workplace!
I just find the constant 'me me me' exhausting though.

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toppkatz · 23/01/2022 18:00

She posted that on Linkedin? Silly creature.

Grin and bear it, other people in your team will get just as irritated as you, and word will get round without you having to do a thing.

Hoppinggreen · 24/01/2022 08:47

She does sound annoying and that LI post is pretty stupid and unprofessional but I agree you should just keep your head down and wait for someone more senior to deal with her if she goes over the top.
I would question why you thought you would be senior to her? Was this something you were specifically told? I can see why you might be due to experience but not based on your age

darksideofthemooncup · 26/01/2022 20:49

I was told I would be senior to her, unfortunately no one appears to have told her.
It's not based on my age but my experience which has come from working for as long as I have in the positions I've held.

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onedayiwillflyaway1 · 26/01/2022 20:52

Well then you act more senior regardless of her actions.

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