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How bad would it have to be for you to leave?

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DebiNewberry1997 · 19/01/2022 18:56

I have been doing my job for 18 years. I'm good at it and very well qualified. I enjoy the main part of it to an extent but I am getting a bit bored. The thing that's causing me bother is my boss and the place I work.

I cannot stick my line manager and one of my colleagues but the others are pleasant enough (no good pals for about 18 months now). My big boss is fine but uninspired. I'm never going to get on with the two colleagues. Nothing I say or do is right. I'm 100% certain my line manager dislikes me because she accidentally sent me a (vicious) message intended for someone else but about me. The tone and atmosphere in the place makes me really uncomfortable and I dread going to work. I currently cannot eat at all because I am so worried I will be sick at work. I understand that this is ridiculous. If I keep out of her way and avoid communal areas I can just about manage but it requires a huge effort to keep myself calm and smiling. I think she'll probably leave in the next five years (maybe less) though.

I have been working here for three and a half years. It's the only place I can work in the area and we would have to move if I was to get a job in another organisation doing the same thing. We can't move because of family commitments in the area. If I leave I will be losing a good wage/pension, good benefits and all the knowledge and skills I've developed over the years. There's not a lot of work here so in all likelihood a new job would entail a significant pay drop and I'd have to work my way back up.

So, in short, what would you do?

Stick with the current job and ride it out hoping things change or certain people leave?

Or

New job and lose my pay, benefits and experience?

OP posts:
DarlingCoffee · 19/01/2022 19:21

It takes courage but I would change my job. You deserve better than this OP

DebiNewberry1997 · 19/01/2022 20:15

I don't even know what I would do. There are only adverts for minimum wage or zero hours stuff on the local job sites and in the paper. Or stuff that requires trade skills like plumbing and welding.

How do you work out what to do?

Does that sound pathetic?

I just feel quite demoralised.

OP posts:
SunnySomer · 19/01/2022 20:22

Totally different (liked the colleagues but loathed the organisation), but I had a day where everything suddenly got too much - a final straw kind of thing - and ended up resigning without anywhere to go. I had to give 3 months’ notice which gave me thinking time (a little) and ended up completely retraining. It had involved a significant pay cut and I seem to work harder and longer now, but am a significantly happier person.
Can you afford to reskill?

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