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Is this bullying?

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user8750098 · 10/01/2022 15:42

My daughter works in retail in a small team of 4. Recently there has been a lot of staff leaving.
Two of her colleagues constantly moan about how bad the place is and how they are looking for other jobs because of this. They constantly tell my daughter that she will be left to do all the work because there will be no staff trained to do it but her and laugh.
My daughter struggles with anxiety and panic attacks after been diagnosed with an illness during lockdown 1. She constantly worries about something bad happening and this is making her even worse worrying about been overwhelmed at work.

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AlexaShutUp · 10/01/2022 15:45

It doesn't sound like bullying to me. Just misjudged "humour" and a negative atmosphere that your dd appears to be overreacting to. Is she getting help with her anxiety?

If she is able to tell her colleagues that their comments are making her anxious, that would be good. Failing that, or if telling them doesn't resolve the issue, she needs to speak to her manager.

DiddyHeck · 10/01/2022 15:46

No it's not bullying.

If she's unhappy at work or becomes unhappy at work, luckily at the moment there seems to be lots of retail jobs around.

ViaRia · 10/01/2022 16:21

I think it would only be considered bullying if her colleagues know about her anxiety/ panic attacks, are aware of what triggers them, and continue to purposely make those comments to try to upset her. From what you’ve described, that doesn’t seem to be the case so, no, not bullying.
Hope she feels better soon.

Thirtytimesround · 10/01/2022 17:44

If they know their comments upset her and are doing that on purpose for their own amusement, then that is bullying yes.

If they don’t know that she’s upset, and are trying to be funny / just have terrible sense of humour, then that isn’t bullying.

Sorry to hear she is struggling. She is going to have to find a way to deal with this though (or move jobs). I do feel for her, listening to moaners all day is depressing! Can you help her think of things to say when they’re like this? Like “Oh well never mind hope your next job is a better fit” then change subject…

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