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josiejellybean · 23/12/2007 13:18

Hi guys, im going back to work full time in the new year and hubby is staying at home. Im not worried about him coping he is so supportive and looks after our daughter so well, it just im worried that our daughter will become a 'daddy's girl' and i will be sort of pushed out, it seems kind of selfish i know, and that my hubby cant do right for doing wrong its just i dont want to loose the closeness with my daughter. Did any of you find that when you went back to work? im worried she wont respond to me in the same way- now if i pick her up when she crys she settles. She BF well, will she still manage that in the evenings as hubby will have to give her a bottle during the day? also when she gets older will she run to daddy rather than mummy if she needs comfort. I have to go back to work i have no other option, i know my role is to financially suport our family im just so worried. how do i stop this from happening? how do we keep a balance??

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motherinferior · 23/12/2007 13:25

You will always, always be her mummy and be special because you're her mummy, you really will be.

And I'm sure you can maintain BF in the evenings/mornings; I did.

inthegutter · 27/12/2007 11:50

I would guess most fathers work full time, and I don't see many of them stressing about whether they will lose their special relationship with their child. You're her mother. Her father is her father. Of course you won't be pushed out - you both have a special bond with her because you're her parents!

josiejellybean · 27/12/2007 15:54

yep i never thaught of it that way! your right i suppose most dads do work full time and i dont love my dad any less thanx thats mada me feel better looking at it from that point of view!

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Judy1234 · 27/12/2007 16:44

We both worked full time so it wasn't quite the same but I never felt the children loved me less and that love was based on number of hours of contact.

In general people are closest to those they spend most time with however whether they are aged nearly 80 and attached more to their carers than their family but with two parents around evening and weekends it usually works out fine. Also in our case I never gave a baby a bottle but as soon as I got home they were clamouring to get under my shirt - first thing I did when I got in was breastfeed so I am sure it will continue to associate you with breast and him with bottle.

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