Too scared to rock the boat some more

[kay7]

Im a single mum and have managed to juggle work and home somehow I asked my employer to give me notice and stuff if I had to work awkward hours or go away.I got moved to do a different job because as my boss said it would make their jobs easier because of my situation and should expect these unfavourable positions because im not as useful because I have a kid....I complained about this and it got resolved but I have been getting awkward jobs since then.Im so tempted to quit but I cant afford to go through the whole thing.IM scared to complain too much cos apparently it will b harder to get another job if you kinda sue your old employer.Just the other day my new boss said to me, "ther could be resentment from people who dont understand yo situation so i should expect it."Im fed up and wish I could jus bury my head in the sand sumwher.Im tired of fighting or having to explain everyday.Do single mums have to do just part time work?I was a single mum when i got the job.Im fuming.sorry for going on and on I needed that.

oh dear! i really feel for you. Employers can be the least understandable people! it does seem a little wrong that he would demote you for those reasons infact completely unlawful. i know you said that has been resolved but you still sound like your geting a bum deal! have you tried getting in touch with your local citizens advice bureau to maybe establish whether what he's doing is unreasonable. in my books...he is being particularly prejudiced towards you and thats not right under any circumstance. i dnt think that, if you sued your old employer it would pose a threat to being employed again, after all what he is doing sounds very unjustifiable and particularly selfish on his part. you have been very straight with him,which he doesnt seem to appreciate. at the end of the day you should be thinkin of yourself in this, dont worry about making a fuss..this is your situation, not anyone elses, and you cant be expected to enjoy work when they are not respecting your situation. hope you get things sorted!

I am getting a bum deal and I spent years studyin to get to wer I am.I work as hard as all the men.(its a male job,so they say).I dont ask anyone to do my share or use my looks or anything like that.never had problems like this.I will see what the citizen b. people say.Im dreading going back to work after the holidays.I do feel guilty sometimes but I shouldnt really coz I was straight with them.Its become so uncomfortable and I,ve been working myself too hard to compensate even though there is nothing to compensate.I will sort it out somehow.thanks

I'm horrified at your bosses comments.

You should expect unfavourable positions cos you have a child! Complained and then got awkward jobs! You should expect resentment!

Its one thing to move an employee around but coupled with these comments, its sounds more like discrimination.

Please don't apologise for fuming. It sounds to be that you may be working in a "boy's club", if you see what I mean, and they may be trying to force you out. This is actually a form of discrimination. Please join a union like the GMB (which is open to all) cos you really do need some advice about this situation.

Please do not think that his behaviour is normal - it's not!