Signed off, very stressed

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I have been in a new job for 4 months. Its a very full on, visible role, in a young start up environment- there are very fe established processes in place and due to the nature of my role I am sort of a 'catch all' for everything anyone needs doing and its just too much pressure for one person. In addition to that my line manager is a bullying micromanager.

I have been diagnosed with high blood pressure as a result and my anxiety is through the roof. It came to a head this week when I spoke to my doctor about going back onto some anti anxiety meds and they said I needed to be signed off. Its now all kicked off at work, I had to confront my line manager, and they were very emotionally manipulative when I spoke to them (they cried) and now I'm just off work trying to work out what I want.

A lot of the day to day job I enjoy- I have worked really hard and accomplished some great things. I truly believe that as the company continues to grow I will be in the best position to grow and be promoted and get more money. However I just don't know if it's worth it? I'm working all hours, evenings, weekends, and when I'm not working I just lay on my bed and cry. I feel so stressed and drained. My partner and my friends say they're worried about me.

I just dont know whether I should walk away and let a lot of people down, and end up somewhere potentially for less money where I have a better work life balance. Or do I stick it out for another 6 months when things will probably have improved a bit?

Has anyone been in a similar situation?

Do you want to work with a bullying micromanager long term? I'd be getting the fuck out tbh.

Is it definitely micromanaging? If there are few established processes in place, could they just be trying to get those up and running, rather than fussing over every little detail?
You say they were being emotionally manipulative, because they cried.. But that's a pretty extreme reaction for a manager to have when someone goes to them with a stress issue. Sounds like they could also be stressed!

It doesn't sound like a great company to work for really......

They do micromanage in that they want to be involved in every little thing I do- I was sold the job as autonomous and I report into someone in another timezone so was anticipated being largely left to get on with things myself, but it’s transpired that’s not the case. Then when I’ve been struggling and needed support this line manager has been nowhere to be found! They cried when I spoke to them because they were upset they had caused me upset- which is all very well and could well be true but meant I didn’t feel I could be completely honest with them as I didn’t want to upset them further.

Everyone who works there is quite stressed, and even the CEO micromanages, so it’s embedded in the culture from the top down.

It's unfair of you to judge your boss as manipulative just because she cried. Maybe she's also stressed.

However I just don't know if it's worth it? I'm working all hours, evenings, weekends, and when I'm not working I just lay on my bed and cry. I feel so stressed and drained. My partner and my friends say they're worried about me.

Read that back and think what you would advise a friend to do.

My view is I think it is not worth it. You can leave a job with your head held high, you say to yourself it wasn't the right thing, no harm done, find something different.

What would happen to you financially if you take a drop in income - are you at risk with your mortgage/rent? If not, I would personally prioritise my life and health.