The girls at work are in a little clique and I’m not included

[Lolabray]

I just find their behaviour very clicky and sometimes this makes me feel left out and paranoid at work

For example they sit and what’s app each other and then say look at the pics and go over and compare them.

Go into the toilets to whisper about things

Earwig into managers conversations with others

I’m not the kind of person to gossip and have a busy job where the phone is always ringing but I can’t help but feel a bit out of it like I’m not good enough to be part of their special group

(I’ve always been a bit of a person who likes to be friends with everyone and
Not just one person)

Any advice to
Cope with this would be appreciated

Just be grateful that you're better than all that bullshit - idiots like that always turn against each other anyway and you'll be well out of it x

@OhLookMoreShit thanks yes I’m not getting involved and hope to move jobs next year. Thanks x

headphones if you're allowed. Visibly tune out.

It's very likely to be they're just a bit self absorbed rather than anything about you personally.

Yupp, headphones.

I think some people with no strong sense of them self take their identity from what the group is not so if you're a bit older/fatter/nerdier than they ideally visualise them selves, then their identity is banking on you not being a part of the group.

Re-connect with other friends. It helps remind you that people do value you for you.

When I was excluded at work, one woman was behind it, not a whole bunch, but her one woman mission was successful. She knew how to manipulate social dynamics.

I got some comfort from knowing that I would never behave like that. That harmonious inclusion in a group is my goal.. I got some 'comfort' from that. Knowing that I don't have several different personalities on the go, lovely one for people whose association might validate me, and 'frosty one for people I consider beneath me, association with them might tarnish my fragile perception of myself'

They probably all hate eachother and bitch and gossip about whoever isn’t there at the time.
You are better off out of it

Omg OP sorry to hear this. I experienced this too and I really struggled. My mental health plummeted and it brought back some horrible memories from my school days. It was the whispering behind my back and girly giggling that I hated. My best advice to you is to stay as calm as you can and keep smiling and being polite. It won't last forever, life changes. Sending hugs. Xx