Another Christmas do thread

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Sat in my car crying.

Probably shouldn't post here.

I drove half an hour to the Christmas do to find out it's been cancelled. After hanging about for another 45 minutes before I decided to ask staff.
Been at a workplace 6 months. I don't really text colleges, nor am I on the workplace whatsapp. My previous workplace I had some mental health issues, didn't really go out or go to Christmas Dos.
Noone told me it was cancelled. I don't have the organisers number but I do have email. I don't know why is was cancelled. May have been Omicron or low numbers. I wasn't at work the last working day this week but again... email.
I have a feeling at work people are talking behind my back, thought I was being paranoid. Now I'm not so sure.
I think not being added to the whatsapp group is a form of bullying.
I could get a different job. I'm a.proffesional in high demand. My workplace is short staffed so I do want a meeting with my manager. I'll email her maybe tomorrow or Monday. What should I say? I need to get to the bottom of this.
Thanks for reading.

Don't overthink this. It will have been nothing personal, prob a case of a change in advice, accidentally missed off.

It may have just been an oversight. I’d drop and email and ask what happened, they might feel awful and it’s a genuine mistake.

Please don't do anything until Monday. You'll feel calmer then.

Must be rotten getting all dressed up and driving in the dark then finding no one there!

The WhatsApp group is a good point. Who have you asked to be added and what did they say? Is your manager on it and could he or she add you?

Go home. Bottle of wine. Some nice tunes.

I'd be upset too, but it will feel better as the evening goes on.

You’re 100% sure you haven’t made a mistake with the date or anything?

This happened to me. I'd turned up a week early.

That's shit op, but it could be a simple oversight.

Have you checked work email/intranet/teams group?

Is it an official work WhatsApp or just a few colleagues?

Thanks everyone. I'm sure it's an oversight as I wasn't in on the last day/ lots of people were and I haven't really talked too much about it. I'll email on Monday. My line manager is completely not into any social events and the boss wasn't going. I'm more embarased than anything. The response to WhatsApp was, oh yes I can add you, then nothing. I then didn't mention it as im not a fan generally of them.

Thanks for updating. Glad you're OK.

I did email this morning, encouraged by DH (who wanted to go straight to her grievance). They got straight back, cc'd Others for information with an apology and explanation, and that I'll be reimbursed for travel.

Poor you...a friend texted me last week to check the details of the venue for a party we'd both been invited to (she knew I wasn't going as DH and kids all have covid).
Correct venue and day, but no-one else had turned up! All paid for but clearly everyone had decided against it on the day.

A small group did show up 45 minutes later - when I called someone, but she'd gone home by then....

The organiser should (rightly) be feeling dreadful about it and the company sound like they are putting steps in place to make sure it doesn't happen again.

It definitely wasn't personal op, someone has fucked up massively though.

Can’t you get added to work group messages then mute the group, just check every now and then for messages.
Why’d you wait 45 minutes and then ask? Why not ask the moment you arrived?