working f/t dd playing up

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I have recently changed job and have chosen to work f/t. I previously worked 3 days,with dd in nursery 2 days and dh and g/p covering the other day.
I know my new boss as I have worked with him over the years and knew that staffing levels were an issue when I started, also the extra money is very handy.
My childcare for dd aged 2 has not changed in that she still spends 2 days at nursery and the rest of the week is with dh and g/p.

Money for childcare is not an issue, I just do not want her to be in nursery any more days as she comes home exhausted. My plan was to do f/t for 6 months and then review it, however dd behaviour has definitely changed for the worse. Just shouting and generally needing some persuasion to behave, also she was toilet trained and tends to have more accidents when I am not about.

I am not sure if it is simply the 2's or if the g/p being here and not me, now is the problem.

My own parents as usual do things their own way, but mostly stick to dd routine, however my pil who help dh one day a week are never out of her face. They cant seem to let her be.
I think that I know she is reacting to me being away however dh is trying to convince me that it is just her age.

I do feel very upset at the situation and feel torn to what to do/ Asking for p/t would be okay and it would be granted, I work in the NHS, however I would love to get another few months money behind us to clear our feet from debt.

I thought it would be easier at this time of year as we would have been at home early in the day due to the light and weather.
Any suggestions? although I do feel a bit better for getting it off my very large chest.

Hmm, I know you're saying she's exhausted after nursery but I would have thought all these different rules/carers/locations would be more exhausting to cope with tbh. What about 4 days nursery and 1 day with DH, ideally on a Wed to break the week up?

Don't have any real suggestions but how long have you been back working full time? It doesn't sound like you have given things very long to settle from your post. Are you managing to spend much time at all with your dd? She is probably missing her time with you. They do seem to notice more and more once past 2 years old. Can you compensate at weekends?

Sorry to tired to post over the last few nights, I have only been back f/t for 2 months so you are probally right in that I havent given it much time. I suppose I am looking for some magic answer. My pil and own parents all watch her in our house so at least she is in familiar ground and when they take her outits to all the places we used to go so. I think I just want to go back to p/t although it is much less tiring than having a 2 year old, but I miss all our time together, the w/ends seem to go by really quickly. We do eat together each night as dh is home by 6.20 and dd is in bed by 7.45 so not much time at night either. I tink that after the holidays I might take one days annual leave every two weeks and hope that works. Tahnks for your posts.