I work for an organisation as a manager of part of it. I'm qualified in this line of work to masters level and also have legal qualifications, I was a solicitor for over 20 years. In the sector I work in confidentiality is very important and there has been no suggestion in the 10+ years I've been here that I have ever failed to respect that rule.
I have never really got on with my boss, who is overall manager of the concern, I have thwarted her attempts to micro manage me ( she used to ask to see emails I was intending to send and change the wording in insignificant ways) She also instructed me to complain about the incorrect use of the words "who" and "whom" in a regulators report of our organisation (I did not, and made my views very clear about this)
Last week I was invited to a Zoom meeting I don't usually get invited to, and I didn't have much to contribute so was very quiet. During the course of the meeting there was discussion about some matters which were clearly linked to employees personal circumstances and were extremely confidential. As this discussion continues I get an email from her pointing out to me that there are sensitive matters being discussed and they must be kept confidential. I replied saying I considered it hurtful that she should even mention this. The implication here is that she doesn't trust me.
I really have had enough, she is well over retirement age and seems unable to let go, especially from her number one passion of making everyone's life a misery. She spends all her weekends here in her office, despite having more support staff for her role than anyone else doing her job that I have come across.
When anyone stands up to her she gets very awkward. After the incident she said she would like to come round to my office and talk to me about it, I asked her what time she was free and said I thought it would be a very good idea, she has not replied yet, 3 days later. She has also failed to reply to any of my routine emails which impinge on the welfare of our customers.
I'm just wondering if this time I should make a formal grievance to our Board, in any event I will clearly state that her comment was unacceptable when I do see her again. I have obviously not discussed the content of the meeting with anyone, but I have spoken to DH about why I was so upset, he told me, as he has before that she is just a sad person with nothing or no one in her life except work and that I should not let it get to me. I just feel totally fed up with this and need to do something. The rest of my job is OK really, the team I run is very good to work with, though they have all had their experiences with her of a similar nature to mine.