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Colleague undermining me

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EmergencyPoncho · 03/10/2021 09:45

We all work remotely and this colleague started later than me. We are parallel and she is in no way higher up than me. I noticed she started making subtle put downs a while ago, but I ignored. Then last week, in a client meeting which I was leading as my turn, she said at then end when I was trying to bring it to a close, "Oh Emergency is really rushing us through today"! We had covers all topics, we were in the last minute of time and the clients had nothing to add. She then brought this up in responses to the email I sent with the minutes.

She is domineering, loud, uses 1000 words when 10 would suffice, is the type of person who just had to say something. My problem is I am massively low in self esteem, although the company rate me highly. But I just don't know how to respond, I don't know what would be appropriate. I'm middle aged and this has never happened to me before. Any advice would be welcome, thanks.

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redastherose · 03/10/2021 10:13

Why can't you reply to her email with what you've put here? Just say that there was no rushing, the meeting had concluded, the client had nothing further to add and you'd appreciate it in future if she didn't comment that you were rushing to conclude a meeting with a client when you were not. You know how to run a meeting and when you are doing so it is up to you to bring it to a conclusion and it gives a bad impression to our clients if you appear to be disagreeing with me for no reason.

burnoutbabe · 03/10/2021 10:16

Agree that bringing anything negative like that up in front of clients is unprofessional and should be done privately (whether true or untrue)

CaptSkippy · 03/10/2021 10:45

Agree with previous posters. Email her about this.

Also document the incident. Next time it happens give her a warning that you will esclate this if it happens again. Then follow up if the behavior doesn't change.

Nip this in the bud, OP. However, remain calm and professional while you do so.

LukeEvansWife · 03/10/2021 10:50

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EmergencyPoncho · 03/10/2021 12:58

Thanks all. I'm perfectly competent but in difficult situations, I can never see what to do!! Which I should by now. Appreciate your responses and you taking the time.

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