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Weird boss

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marieantoinehairnet · 29/09/2021 06:36

Ok, so I'll start by detailing my place in the structure.

I manage a team and report to "weird boss". Have a handful of peers, some of whom also find the boss odd. Others who brown nose through fear.

Weird boss reports into big boss, big boss and weird boss go way back, worked together at various places, best mates.

So we have a structure that means we cannot give honest feedback on what a crap boss he is, as let's face it, the feedback goes to his best mate.

All those reporting into weird boss are also female. So you get the picture, it's very hierarchical.

My recent dealings with him have left me feeling really frustrated. Our weekly catch ups are meant to be for my benefit but all he does it talk about himself. I've asked my peers and they experience the same.

I've recently been off sick for something serious, had a call yesterday, he never even asked how I was. Just waffled on about him. I needed to raise something with him about my health issue but I was so angry that in the end I didn't bother.

He's sexist, he's anti working mothers, he doubles people's work loads without a second thought. He protects certain people within our teams as changing their roles would upset the hierarchy but doesn't give a hoot for others, the none favourites.

This is in a huge firm who sing and dance about being diverse/fair etc

This has been happening for years.

He also ignores emails sent to him, half the time not responding.

I'm not sure where to take this, as I feel I actually can't work like this anymore. He's not a good manager, I spend so much time making sure I check in on my own team, and so so others in the business, when I compare how he is it's fundamentally wrong.

Any advice at all?

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LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 29/09/2021 20:36

Get a new job.

If he is best mates with the big boss, let me tell you from experience, they won't take any of your feedback on board.

Doesn't sound like they are weird, it sounds like they are self absorbed and don't have the soft skills to be a manager.

Plenty of them out there.

marieantoinehairnet · 29/09/2021 21:54

This is it, I don't want to move but I'm getting to the point where I can't see things changing. It's terrible that people get away with such poor management, our attrition is high and it's because of people like him

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