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I think I need to leave my job but want perspective

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wigglerose · 09/09/2021 18:00

I've always had weird issues with my job that are very frustrating to live with. I have two managers, each responsible for managing 50% of my time.

One of them gives me more or less clear objectives (although they're never SMART, I more or less know what I need to do. Imagine being told, "Carve all the cherry wood that arrives in the way it needs carving "as an objective. When, exactly what, and the deadlines aren't clear fromt the start but I get on with it). I'd prefer more clarity, but at least I have a steady stream of work and I'm more or less left alone to get on with things. He also has an annoying habit of giving me projects as a stop gap and then hiring someone to do them without telling me that I'm only running them temporarily, which just makes me feel taken for granted and weirdly insecure because it feels like anything I'm doing can just be reallocated at any time.

The other one refuses and I basically have to ask for work each week, try to guess how long it'll take me, and ask for more work as/when I have time. I always have to try to think 1-2 weeks ahead, because for boring reasons it's not clear how long tasks will take, and she only delegates tasks as and when they land on her desk. She's always pushing me to ask the rest of her team for work. I do so as and when I'm free, but generally I get given very little by them. She doesn't manage the rest of her team like that, instead they have clear objectives and deadlines.

I hate this. I really do. I hate the uncertainty, I hate having to ask for work week after bloody week. I find it very wearing not to have clear objectives. I hate having to guess how long things will take. Sometimes I get it wrong and have too much work. Sometimes too little and I'm twiddling my thumbs.

I'm on mat leave and planning to return to work in November. I had a return to work meeting. I asked to be part of one team or another, not split across two and was told no. I then asked if I could have clear objectives for 100% of my time. The problem line manager said she didn't understand, and I said objectives like the other line manager give i.e. clear area of responsibility. She said her team didn't work like that. I said ok, please could I have a steady pipeline of work. She sort of agreed.

I'm very worried that the status quo is just going to prevail. I'm looking for other jobs right now in fact.

Any managers on here have any idea how to handle this? I feel like I need to create a diary of when I ask for work and how much I get in return. I think she'd pay attention if I gave her hard data to work with but part of me feels it'd come across as really pedantic and petty. But also I've asked for change, and it has been rejected so no idea how to handle it apart from leave.

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MrsCocochannel · 11/09/2021 11:08

Hello
I feel I could have written this post. I gave up a good wfh job to take a really senior PA job locally much more money and I thought amazing g potential. I just left the job 2 days ago after only 2 months in the job for all the reasons you describe. Exactly the same. I had no responsibilities of my own as such and every day had to ask for work and I mean every day and I was given task orientated admin work such as adding new logos to documents and then the whole day nothing else. I had 2 honest meeting with my manager and said I couldn't sit my desk pushing the same bit of paper around with nothing to do. The other manager the MD was open about not wanting g a PA to he kept me at arms length. His wide hired me as she said the business was growing g and directors needed help. It was a big business with over 350 staff but the directors in my view just either didn't know how to use a PA or trust one. Everyday was soul destroying for me aski g for work when everyone else was busy. I came from A job that was so demanding dost clock watching and I mean just sitting trying to look busy and that was for 30k.the situation was just too weird so I ve just taken a 6 month temp contract and left for my own sanity while I figure out what to do. Aski g your boss everyday for work just makes you feel junior and worthless. Seems to me your situation won't improve and you'll just get more frustrated. Life's too short to feel awkward and weird in work.you need to feel you are needed in a role otherwise where's the satisfaction.

wigglerose · 11/09/2021 20:20

Omg thanks so much. You hit the nail on the head re feeling worthless. I just want something to own if yswim.

Hope you figure things out x

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Timeforabiscuit · 11/09/2021 20:24

Recently left a job as was underemployed, it was soul destroying, it starts undermining your confidence. Now have a very busy role and far far happier working 30 mins over than trying to fill the hours!

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