Fall out over my husbands MAT leave

[Babyjune21]

I’m very confused , our friend has falling out with us for not telling her how long my husband was off for mat leave ,
We had a baby a few months ago and my husband is nearly half way in too his 6 months mat leave . He works quite high up in a large insurance firm and there policy is to give every male worker 6 months full pay mat leave regardless of weather the mums on Matt leave too (we know how lucky we are to have this ) so we tent not to say to anyone unless they ask , as we don’t want to sound like we are rubbing it in any ones faces

I met up with a friend during the week and he was with me to drop me off I waved goodbye and me and said friend went in and sat down in cafe before the woman even came to take our order she snapped at me and said how come he’s dropping you off is he not back to work yet I said no he’s still on mat leave she asked what I meant and I explained about the 6 months off she snarled at me about how unfair that was because he husband who works for nhs only got 2 weeks I agreed and said I though all men should get longer mat leave I tried to change the subject but she turned to me and said “ are you even going to bother going back to work after this baby you didn’t with the last or are you just going to kid on to be the stay at home wife “

She knows I don’t have to work due to partners wage not from me but from my mother in law telling her mother I could of let the ground swallow me up right there , we had a very quite coffee and thankfully my husband was only round the corner at the shops so I made my excuses and left I’m not sure what she wanted me to say but she has since told her mother who’s then spoke to my mother in law and said she won’t be seeing me again I’m not sure what I could of done differently I feel worried to meet up with anyone else incase they question it and the same thing happens

Should I lie next time and say he just has annual leave ?

@Brainwave89, yes bitterness is very apt description of the friend's reaction.

She sounds very bitter and jealous.

She is not a friend! You should tell everyone so men know this is out there. All the companies I’ve worked for have paternity leave, not much help for me of course , so very excited dh is finally at one that has 4 months leave.

Hi everyone thanks for the support I read every last msg and I really appreciate it
All !
Just a little bit of an update and back
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My mil and her mother went to high school together and had her son my husband and friend had daughter not long apart after me and my husband have read the comments on here he asked his mum why she told her
Mother about me not having to work (we never questioned it before ) it turned out they were out for a few drinks mil and this woman’s mum and a few friends her mother got a little bit too drunk and made a passing comment about how her daughter works ( she’s a cleaner just for context) how hard her daughter works while some people’s daughters in law sit on their “fat arses all day and get money from the government” one of the other woman asked who she was talking about and she pointed to my mother in law and that’s how it started with telling her I don’t get any money from government because husbands wage covers us both

Now so called friend has wrote an aimed Facebook stats at me along the lines of “so fed up of working myself to the bone while
Others get to sit and do nothing all day and get everything paid for ungreatful cow” I can only assume it’s about me as it was posted the night after we met up … I have since with the help of you guys saying I don’t deserve it
I have blocked her social media and number so thank you !

Good for you! Looks like you were the unfortunate receptacle to unload the massive chip on her shoulder onto. She is clearly not happy with her lot. Not your circus, not your monkeys!

Not a friend! I've felt jealous at times with my friends but I would never take it out on them, no matter how unfair something might feel.