How to deal with co workers talking behind your back?

[Barbiez]

I haven’t long started working in a lovely nursing home (about 3 months ago) and most of my colleagues are great to get along with, and have shown me the ropes, been supportive and non judgmental.
Last week I had to report a co worker to my manager because she was talking about me behind my back to another co worker saying I wasn’t putting away clothes away fast enough from the laundry room, after I had told her I was already busy doing other tasks, such as making beds, and trying to put clothes away she went off in a huff and went to b*tch about me behind my back (I walked past her before heading back down to the laundry room.)
I reported this to my manager, who was very lovely about the situation and said she will speak to my co worker separately as she stated she won’t tolerate gossip in the home.

Today, on my shift one of my co workers, who is from an agency (first time meeting her) seemed incredibly off with it, short, snappy replies when asking if she would like me to finish certain tasks for her while she tended to a client etc.
As I am doing the washing up, I hear her talking to one of my other coworkers on my shift saying “does she EVER help you with anything?” To which my coworker replied “yeah”.
She then had a go at me because she asked me to help feed a patient, of course I got up and helped and apologised I didn’t start feeding the patient sooner, as I was logging patients meals and drink they had most recently had. She said “you need to do that after because it’s so hectic right now” I said my memory isn’t the best so I prefer to do it now while I’m thinking about it, to which she got in a huff about.
She then continued to blank me throughout the day, she didn’t even ask me if I wanted any of the leftover lunch from the clients (spare food), I asked her where it was as I hadn’t eaten yet and she said she chucked it all in the bin!

Im a pretty sensitive person anyway, so maybe it isn’t appropriate of me to get upset about what other coworkers think or say about me, but I just can’t help it. My DH said to report it again to my manager, but I don’t want to see like the “taddle tale” of the work place!

I imagine it's very busy and demanding there so people can get a bit stressed and irritable. This is only me but l would not be going reporting everything to the manager as that needs to be kept for serious situations. Try not to expect too much. Focus on the people who are friendly and helpful. Just do your tasks as best you can and gradually you will be more at ease.
That's not to say she wasn't rude but as she is from an agency she may not be there again.

I think you’re right - I wouldn’t keep going to your manage but I would keep a diary of al these incidents (very factual - what happened on what date/time, rather than how you felt) so that of it escalates and continues you can go to your manager at some point down the line.
There will always be some people at work who are ignorant, rude, domineering, unpleasant and generally awful but you just have to stick a metaphorical finger up to them and go about your day, focusing on the people you like and get on with - and don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself. If it starts to become bullying behaviour then report it and in the meantime hopefully you’ll not have too much further contact with her.

I wouldn't have spoken with your manager the first time. That seems a bit petty. I don't think that colleague meant for you to overhear and management can't police what people talk about. She didn't complain about you to her so it clearly wasn't as big a deal as she made out. I do however feel the behaviour of the other colleague needs addressing. It isn't up to her to have a go at you or tell you when to fill out patient records. Where I used to work they were filled out after dressing/breakfast, mid morning, after lunch, mid afternoon, evening, bed time and after any medication. Is it similar where you work?
I'd ask your manger if she/he has, or has heard of, had any issues with the way you work and see what she says. Look to her for support rather than making it a complaint about others.