Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Work

Chat with other users about all things related to working life on our Work forum.

Vetting and police 'incident'

4 replies

mycatissleeping · 03/08/2021 19:41

I need some advice as I am very worried about this.

A couple of months ago I had to call emergency services because my husband was having a hypoglycaemic episode (he is type 1 diabetic). We were in public and he was having seizures. During the call, he managed to get up but he started shouting and being incoherent (low blood sugar affects people neurologically). He was shouting and swearing at me in between falling over.

The responder said they can't send anyone unless he stays still, so they asked me to call back if help is required. I managed to get him home and get him to eat something - his blood sugar was below 2.

I was then contacted by the police, who asked if they could come round for a chat. They said the responder was worried about my welfare due to the shouting, and asked me lots of questions you would ask a victim of domestic violence. They asked if I have been hurt physically, if I get subjected to verbal abuse etc. They said I seemed very upset: I said I was very shaken due to the incident (I thought he was going to die on the pavement) and I didn't know what to do. I was in shock. They then said they didn't see anything further to investigate and asked me to call back if anything further happened.

I've now found out they've referred me to victim support. And I'm very worried about this. I am trying to get a job which requires extensive vetting on me and everyone close to me, and if it transpires i am living with and married someone who subjects me to domestic violence I wont get the job.

What do I do? Do I withdraw from the recruitment process? Will the fact it was a medical incident excuse anything? I am worried sick about this.

OP posts:
MoreRainbowsPlease · 03/08/2021 19:46

I can't believe they wouldn't send an ambulance out. That is ridiculous! My brother is a type 1 diabetic so I know that low blood sugar can make people act very out of character. He also has had fits during a hypo, so I am amazed you managed to get your husband home.

I would be putting a complaint into the ambulance service as your dh could have died.

Nothing will show up on a dbs check from you being referred to victim support so don't worry about that. But I am furious on yours and your husbands behalf that he was denied an ambulance in a life threatening situation.

I am presuming though that your husband is not abusive at other times.

LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 03/08/2021 22:51

The best thing you can do is be completely honest with the dv officer about the incident. Explain it as you have here. Don't try to hide it, they won't like that.

They may want to check more thoroughly but if you are being honest it should be fine.

LegalUtopia · 04/08/2021 10:46

Just be honest with the employer, if they ask about it or just tell them yourself. However I would also agree with @MoreRainbowsPlease and put in a complaint.

PanamaPattie · 04/08/2021 10:54

Apply for the job. There is no evidence of domestic abuse and the victim support referral is the police just ticking a box. You haven’t made a complaint against your husband. He hadn’t been arrested or even spoken to I assume. You can easily explain the incident as you have on here - if indeed it even gets mentioned.

You should also complain about the poor response from the ambulance service. What did they mean by “not sending someone out until he was still”?

New posts on this thread. Refresh page