Hi all, hoping the MN hive can help with my conundrum.
We’re likely to be starting IVF in the next few months, I’ve been very honest with close colleagues including my boss (who’s recently also been through the IVF process with his partner).
My boss is now leaving and his role will need to be filled - it’s basically my dream job. I’m going to go for it, but now I feel really awkward that I’ve shot myself in the foot by telling people about our IVF because it’ll mean time off work and potentially (hopefully, if it works!) a bunch of time off for maternity very shortly into taking on the new role.
The company I work for is pretty flexible (charity sector) and family-friendly, but I’m worried that the possibility of me being pregnant soon will stack against me. I’m guessing legally they definitely can’t take it into consideration - but would I be being a total dick to not mention it during the recruitment process, then fuck off on mat leave a few months in?
Feel like I should continue to be open and honest - and guessing my boss will tell the recruiting team anyway. But also mindful that if it was my OH in this position, he wouldn’t be telling the recruitment team, even though we’ll be sharing parental leave. So maybe I’m just channelling the patriarchy and getting imposter syndrome before the job’s even been advertised!
Interested to hear from anyone who’s been in a similar position, or honest opinions from people who hire and fire!
Cheers!