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Loudspeaker embarrassing for line manager

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hellodear · 17/07/2021 18:20

I would appreciate some advice on how to handle this situation.
I started a new job with another new colleague. We got on line a house on fire straight away. We started to see red flags in the organisation immediately. The woman who is training us part of the time who is the same position as us was very disrespectful about the manager. She made it clear that she comes in early, never takes a lunch break and stays 2 hours after work most days. This is daily because she said the workload is immense and duties are immense.

We had to visit another office who do the same job and like this woman said that they work all hours. All of these people said they only take long weekends and never even a week of because the job is so stressful that you need the days to be taken frequently to cope.
They keep repeating this and it’s obvious that they expect the same from us as new members of staff.

On the 2nd week my line manager was putting calls on loud speaker so that he could show us how he deals with calls. Embarrassingly for him, one call was from one of the colleagues we met crying her eyes out saying that she despite working all hours of the day and night she can’t keep up with the workload.

We also had an email from the manager thanking people for working all hours to cope. One other colleague told us if they had listed all the job duties she would never have applied for the job.

To top it all off the disrespectful colleague must have taken a disliking to me and owing to managers comments she has been twisting my words and making things up to look like I am unhappy in the job.

The other day the other new starter was left alone with her and she began probing her about me. She was asking all sorts of intrusive questions about me. Anything my new starter colleague said, she would twist it. She even commented that I didn’t speak up about a certain topic, so that must mean I think ab and c about it. Very bizarre assumptions about me. Also she called me a rebel and my new started colleague a goody goody on my 2nd time of meeting her. I have no idea why as I have been nothing but kind and civil.
She says she senses and atmosphere and she doesn’t think I like the job. She said that she dislikes that I am not open like my new starter colleague is. She asked her about my medical history and made comments about my marital status. She is aware that a very close family member of mine has just been diagnosed with cancer but seems determined to find ways to get me sacked.

What should I do? I had a bit of a breakdown this weekend because I am so nervous about the workload and the fact that this woman seems determined to get me out.

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Twilow · 17/07/2021 18:40

I would quit. Sounds like an utter shithole. Is that an option?

hellodear · 17/07/2021 18:55

Twilow

I agree. I cannot believe the situation I am in. I would leave ASAP, but it took me so long to get this job and I need an admin reference.

I have a lot of stress in my personal life at the moment and the colleague attacking me behind my back like that led to me breaking down whilst driving with my DS.

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Twilow · 17/07/2021 18:56

Is there a HR department? What sort of company and how big?

hellodear · 17/07/2021 18:58

It's a non profit and has no proper HR. Just a person who has assumed the duties apparently.

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toodleloodoo · 18/07/2021 14:11

Is there anyone that can give me any advice on strategy. Monday is looming....

VodselForDinner · 18/07/2021 14:18

It sounds like a cult!

My strategy for dealing with her is this-

Neutral expression, non-commit all response when she asks you anything that’s not work related.

If she keeps pushing, as her why she wants to know. Keep asking every time she responds. It’ll make her look like an idiot.

Other than that, I’d just ignore her. Ask your friendly colleague to not give her any information.

It sounds like a horrible place to work, though, so I’d be job hunting.

Hellodear · 18/07/2021 15:23

A cult lol!

The strategy you wisely advised me to do is apparently what she dislikes about me! Apparently she doesn't like it when I don't give my opinion on everything! She says it must mean.... and makes a conclusion about me. Very weird.

Yes, I told my friend if she starts asking about me shut her down.
As lovely as my new colleague is she has shared very personal information about herself with this woman. My new colleague can't stand her.

Apparently part of the problem she has with me is that I am not as open. I've been friendly and chatted and answered her questions, but I keep it professional.

My friend told me it's usually her in my seat of people trying to make trouble for her. I've had my fair share of this in the workplace and quite frankly I am sick and tired of it. Usually I stay quiet for fear of being seen as a troublemaker but if she is already going behind my back. I think I need to deal with it.

The workload and unpaid daily over time is something that was never mentioned at interview. Now they are making their expectations of us very clear.

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VodselForDinner · 18/07/2021 17:18

The strategy you wisely advised me to do is apparently what she dislikes about me! Apparently she doesn't like it when I don't give my opinion on everything! She says it must mean.... and makes a conclusion about me. Very weird.

I would have so much fun with her Grin

Literally, my responses to everything you be “well, you know yourself”, “well, you know how I am”, “I won’t bore you by going through my thoughts about it yet again”, “as I always say (then walk off)”.

Honestly, I love dealing with people like this.

Hellodear · 18/07/2021 18:32

Lol you are brightening my day!

She asks things like do what do you think of the CEO then? I simply didn't answer her! I let my chatty colleague answer. In fact I wish id kept even more quiet with her as she has twisted anything I have said and ran to the managers to present me in a bad light. She just kept asking when I dodged the questions.

She is a real control freak too. She told me I have to have my mobile facing up on the desk. When I had a phone meeting with the manager I left the room and when I came back she was standing at the door rubbing her hands together asking what questions did he ask me and what did he say Hmm I just laughed and said he sacked me. So she asked again and I said you know he asked standard stuff. But from what he was saying to me, it was obvious she has been saying I had been complaining or goodness know what.

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