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Colleague verbally aggressive to me

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Theghostofchristmasarse · 29/06/2021 20:41

Today I experienced an aggressive verbal attack by someone in my team, I'm their line manager. I've raised their behaviour before, rudeness, blanking me, answering in a 'tone'. Today was the second time in a few months they have gone all out, today telling me to do one and that I must have something wrong with me, along with personal comments. Shouting and very aggressive tone used. Walked out afterwards, didn't come back before the end of the day (although I suspect did, to collect their things 😂) All because of a discussion last week when they felt I was rude to them, wanted me to apologise, but hadn't actually raised the rudeness at the time, or spoken to me to ask for an apology....Won't have to work with them in a few weeks, I'm tempted to leave it but also I'm feeling really angry that they might get away with the aggressive behaviour. People there who were witnesses, both to the original comment which they said was rude (no one else there felt it was), plus to the issues today, only problem is that the person there today is very close to the colleague and is likely to stir the situation to benefit themselves.
Trying to not give too many details...I have written up the incident and the alleged rude comment, sent it on to their next line manager to ask for a meeting as I'd like to discuss it calmly without being verbally attacked, I'd also like to challenge some of the personal comments as I feel it's a distraction technique to avoid anyone noticing their own inadequacy in the role. I will still have to have contact further down the line, plus this person has also been making it their business to gossip about me, they won't hold back from telling everyone how awful I am I'm sure. Which just feels like bullying to be honest.
I'm feeling very upset this evening and just want to consider what I should do next. They've made my life very difficult for the past few months but I can't see it getting better, I just need them to understand it's not on really.

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PaterPower · 29/06/2021 20:51

Report this to HR.

You don’t have to tolerate the direct hostility or the gossip / back-stabbing and your company needs to take the appropriate steps to stop it.

RogueMnerHidesUnderABigHat · 29/06/2021 20:55

The way you describe you've dealt with this so far sounds awesome.
Calm, rational, evidence based.

From what you've said, I'd say keep doing what you're doing

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