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Depressed at the prospect of returning to work and leaving my baby

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AnnieGetYourGun78 · 19/11/2007 10:09

I am going back to work - four days a week the first week in january and am dreading it. DS will be nearly 10 months. I could cry whenever i think about it as i am so worried how DS will react to nursery.

i have barely left him in the past 7 months and he is a really poor napper - with me needing to rock him or put him in the stroller to get him to nap....I am worrying how the nursery will cope? i can't stand the thought of him being upset without me there.

Did anyone out there have a similar experience and how did it work out?

Also I am still BF - would switching to formula before or after the move to nursery be best for DS?

Thanks in advance for any postings.

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Evenhope · 22/11/2007 18:25

Annie I've been into nursery today to sort out her settling in days. They recognised us when they answered the door (not been in since Feb with bump) and knew our surname without prompting, which I found very reassuring (they weren't expecting us).

DD has her first hour on 3rd Dec so we'll see how it goes. Was about not being able to specify days or her routine (what routine?!) or times she sleeps or what she eats (nothing ATM). They didn't seem fazed and she was most interested in the toys and the other children

smileyhappymummy · 25/11/2007 18:51

just wanted to say, if you're interested in expressing at work it can be done! I went back a month ago (dd 5.5 months old, had the same feelings you do but really lucky that I earn enough (just) for dh to give up work). I've been expressing enough for her to remain on just breastmilk (and getting about 4 oz a day extra as well!). your employer has certain responsibilities to support bfing, and I actually find it quite a relaxing break to go off 3 times a day with my pump and sit and think about dd.
good luck!

mumbot · 25/11/2007 19:08

Hi, this is such a useful discussion. I'm going back to work 4 days per week in end of Jan and I'm going through the same anxiety.

Does anyone have the kind of job that involves long hours, if so how did that work for you and your bubba?

chocbutton · 25/11/2007 19:26

Not has chance to read whole thread but wanted to add that I felt exactly the same when I went back a few months ago. DS was 8 months, and I just went to a BF morning and evening (and all through the night..still doing that ) and he just has water in the day. So keep up BF'ing, my DS and I love it as its a really close/lovely time for the two of us - think quality not quantity!
I found it incredibly difficult the week before and kept crying, but the actual going back really wasn't as bad as I expected, and I was the same as you, with him 24 hours and couldn't imagine how he'd survive without me! But he did, he is with his grandparents every day, and has a great time. I know its a bit different to nursery but all my friends who have their babies in nursery all say their babies love it and get used to it quickly, you just need to get yourself used to it! Good luck, and make sure you ease yourself back into work x

Myfairone · 01/12/2007 17:24

hi ladies,
sitting here holding lo and crying at the thought of going bac to work...i know im not the only one but feel so desperately unhappy. i never used to be this emotional!

its nice to know im not the only one....hopefully it wont be as bad as i think

big hugs to all

Judy1234 · 01/12/2007 17:41

There are lots of pros as well as cons. If you asked my 23, 21, 19 year olds or even the 9 year olds if they are glad I worked they would say they are. As long as the care they get is okay then it can work fine and don't feel guilty. They can be better off if you work for lots of reasons. I expressed milk at work but whether you can may depend on how you work and mine were still feeding in the night at that age so we kept up the supply at night and just before work and as soon as I got in the door and then reverted to normal feeds at weekends.

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AnnieGetYourGun78 · 23/02/2008 21:38

I have been meaning to post again on here for ages about how my return to work went as know there will be a lot of mothers out there - worrying - as i was 3 months ago.

Well I ruined christmas and new year by fretting aboutputting my DS in nursery - but you know what? It was not half as bad as i thought....the first few times i dropped him off he was a bit clingy but the girls who look after him there are so lovely and affectionate with him that he has settled in really well!!

if you are out there and worried - don't be!! Hopefully your baba will enjoy nursery too !!!

(don't get me wrong i would still rather be at home looking afer him myself !!!

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Vesper · 14/03/2008 12:46

Hello everyone, I'm another mum torn over returning to work. My dd is now 15 weeks&I have agreed to return to work in June. We have decidedto go with a childminder as dd is`in no routine &thrives on attention. As my ml slowly ebbs away the thought of a stranger looking after my little one is too much. My dh takes her out once a week to allow me time to myself but it takes me 20mins to get a grip after she's gone.I'm trying to become more detached but i'm struggling. Any tips from experienced mums? many thanks

Caz10 · 20/03/2008 20:56

hi vesper, bumping this as I'm in the same boat - dd is 14wks and I'm back in June too. Dreading it! And I can't even think about things like getting a coffee in peace or having a relaxing break, as I am a primary school teacher and lunchtime is for marking and prep! No chance of expressing either.
Hopefully someone will come along and say it will all be ok...

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