Work dilemma

[FrenchyQ]

I have been in my current job for nearly 5 years. Last year I was furloughed for 6 months, when I was brought back in October I was seconded to a different department. Since then I have been passed around and not really been back to my actual job longer than for s couple of weeks. I like my job but I feel like I'm being pushed out of it.
I had a week's holiday last week and on a whim applied for a different job, I interviewed on Friday and they offered me the job pretty much immediately after.
The new job is slightly more pay and working from home . I need to tell them tomorrow whether I am accepting the position.
I've been going backwards and forwards in my head all weekend trying to figure out what to do. I know I probably need to take the new job but I feel guilty letting my employer down.

Only you can decide but if the only thing stopping you is guilt then it sounds like you want to take the new job. Do you want the new job? Do you think it will be better for you and you'll be happier for it? The fact that you were looking suggests you aren't happy in your current role.

Do you think you'd regret it more if you took the new job or didn't take it? That's probably your answer.

Take the new job. Do you think your employer feels guilty messing you around for months?

Take the new job, your employer doesn't appear to give a hoot about you. No guilt required

It doesn’t sound like a dilemma OP, it sounds like a no brainer, assuming you would be happy working from home.

It shows that you are a good employee if you’re worried about letting your current employer down, but do you honestly believe that they’d show that level of loyalty back to you if they needed to make redundancies?

Congratulations on your new job!

Definitely take the new job. It's more money and sounds like things are not great at your existing place.

You can't not take a job because you feel guilty! You are replaceable!

Agree with everyone else - take the new job! Congrats!

Yes I'd take the new job too. It sounds as tho you dont have a safe niche currently, where the new place has a niche urgently needing filling....And you've been there for five years..... It'll be exciting!

Take the new job. You should not be worried about letting down your current employer when it looks like they've little to no respect for you.

And congratulations on the new job!!!

I don't understand the guilt. They don't own you. It's a mutually beneficial contract that's no longer so beneficial to you. People move on and a good employer (whilst potentially left with a gap to fill) will be supportive and understanding of a move. A bad employer, well, your best of our of there.

Take the new opportunity. Congratulations💐

Sounds like your employer has let YOU down, so take the new job and don't look back. Congratulations!

Another vote to go for it. You need to put yourself first. All of the moving round sounds unsettling. As @something2say pointed out you need a safe niche. You’re clearly a loyal person but this new role sounds like an improvement and they sound keen

Never let guilt force you to stay in a job. They wouldn't feel guilty letting you go if they needed to.

Go for it!

The days of mutual loyalty between employer and employee are long over (OK, there may be some exceptions), but if your employer hasn't had the decency to sit you down and tell you what's going on, suggests they aren't the best.

You're first priority is to yourself. Congratulations on your new job!

Take the new job.

You can't replace you. They can replace you. And they didn't feel guilty dicking you around. Go. It's only been 5 years. It's a good way to learn that we are not do or die with employers that don't care

Congratulations on your new job (oh make sure you have an official offer and have signed contract before you resign 😁🙈)

Just take the job you want. Why would you think changing job is letting your employer down? Doing your job badly might be considered letting your colleagues down because others might have extra work because of it, but changing job is something everybody does. Some of your colleagues must have left during your time there, I'll bet you didn't think 'shame on them for daring to move on'.

Don't feel guilty - they haven't felt any guilt for passing you from pillar to post over the last year.

But before you hand in your notice make sure you have the offer in writing. I'd also ask the new employer how many people they currently have on furlough and/ or have made redundant over the last year. You don't want to jump from the frying pan into the fire. Stability is important in these current times.

If your company decides to get rid of you they will and they won't think twice about it. Your position doesn't sound very safe

Look after number one and don't feel guilty

Thank you all for replying. I accepted the new ( got it in writing and have contract already). Handed my notice in at my job and they didn't really seem bothered, so from that I think I made the right choice.

Congratulations Op

Congrats - I handed my notice in and like you, was a bit anxious as I work with a small team etc. They interviewed for my role and have appointed someone already, and just have to hand in my phone and lap top in a couple of weeks.

Amazing that I cared so much.