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My twins are 3 years old and I'm finding this stage a challenge. They have endless energy and want to play with me all day.

I've been a stay at home mum for 3 years but recently I've started to work part time and soon I'll be starting full time. My dh will be home one day with them and we have family support/nursery. So far the hardest thing about all this has been the judgement.

I've never doubted myself as much as I have recently. In the evenings I'm tired and close to rejecting the job offer. I get comments that it's going to be incredibly hard work etc. None of these comments were directed towards my dh when he got his full time job. Mil offered to make his sandwiches on his first day of work.

Also, incredibly hard work is being with toddler twins all day with no support in lockdown.

I just needed a rant, I don't know why I'm even typing this.

I think OP , some project how they themselves would cope. I was a single mum to 2 young DC and working full time. I was exhausted but , i enjoyed it and it has served me well. I could pay a mortgage, get a new car etc, take us on lovely holidays. But modern tech. The only people who told me i was "taking on too much" and then , that "my children will suffer in childcare" were those who had never really worked, didn't work, had no intention of working and were dependant on their husbands for everything.

You will be fine op. Your physical stamina will increase as you get used to yr new hrs and yr DC's will be getting older. My DC's are grown now, well rounded, my eldest has a successful career and my youngest starting GSCE's with A level plans then Uni.

Who are the comments coming from?

I love being a working mother - it is hard work but, for me, much less stressful than looking after small children 24/7. You're a total hero for getting through lockdown with toddler twins, wherever you're going to work is very lucky to have you

Thank you so much for these comments. It's strangely just what I needed this evening. I took the job and I'm waiting for my hours to increase to full time. I am a much better mother for working. I can't explain it. I'm happy the kids had a wonderful day at nursery.

Sometimes I wish I could be at two places at once. I envy the fact that the nursery workers got to see them enjoying the baking session today but on the other hand, I hate baking and there's so much mess involved in doing it at home. I don't know how to explain the feeling of envy but I'd never do it at home.

It’s easier to go to work and have adult conversations than to stay at home.
I wouldn’t listen to the comments. It’s nobody’s business.

It's just different!

You will feel better for adult conversation, doing to the loo and eating lunch in piece etc.