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Have I messed up?

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Freedom2019 · 19/04/2021 19:36

I need some opinions on what happened at work. I recently started a new job a few months ago and re-adapting to a new environment and completely new field has been hard, although all staff has been really friendly and welcoming.
Another person has started recently as well although she has worked there before (two summers, two years running). She was doing some invoicing and called me over to her desk several times to explain things I has written and other things she was uncertain about how to invoice. I replied and once stayed near her desk as I was looking at the notebook she was invoicing from. She said really coldly that my presence there was really annoying her. I wasn't looking at her screens or really close or anything, just curious as to how the work was written down. I was really thrown and explained but quite upset as I found it quite rude. I did say it was good to say so. Obviously I wouldn't want her to feel uncomfortable and perhaps I didn't read the situation well. She later called me over again, and questionned me about something, being quite accusatory, as if I had made a mistake, which I didn't, so I asked her how she would do things. She didn't really know either and I'm afraid I got quite annoyed and walked off grumbling. I shouldn't have reacted that way and feel really bad if I made her uncomfortable, although I don't think I did anything particularly offensive. Should I apologise for something that happened last week or just be polite and hope that things will smooth over?

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MintyCedric · 19/04/2021 19:43

Did she apply for your job and not get it I wonder?

Whatever it sounds like her problem not yours, I'd let it lie and avoid her as much as possible going forward.

Freedom2019 · 19/04/2021 19:47

@MintyCedric maybe she did, I have no idea, I guess I was quite surprised as its a very non-bitchy environment and really would not like to be part of silly petty conflict.

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Deedyn · 19/04/2021 19:52

How strange! I’d leave things as they are and hopefully it will blow over OP.

Stichintime · 19/04/2021 19:54

Don't say anything, just be polite and professional.

Freedom2019 · 19/04/2021 20:47

Thanks for the advice, I shall let it lie and try to relax about it!

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Harrythewho · 19/04/2021 21:09

I'd pull her aside and ask her if there was something she'd like to talk about as she came across as on edge and you want to clear the air. Listen to what she says and then reflect for some time before responding.

FawnDrench · 20/04/2021 19:29

I wouldn't be walking to her desk after being "called over" like a bloody skivvy!
If she's got a query she can come over to you or email you.

This seems like she is trying to exert some sort of control over you and in my opinion you need to nip this in the bud very assertively right away.

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