Advice

[Solymar88]

Hi ladies, just looking for some advice.
I’ve never wanted children and my career is thriving but just found out I’m around 6 weeks.
I live with my partner of 3 years, but also have my own house and can’t bring myself to tell him I’m pregnant as he will want me to keep the baby but our relationship isn’t perfect, not in a bad way just I like to wear the trousers. At first I was happy to have the tablet abortion but now I’m I’m struggling morally and strangely I’m feeling that maternal thing I never have before but I don’t think he’s the person to have a child with. Plus since lockdown the wine has been flowing and that is a big concern that I’ve been drinking too much alcohol, I’m concerned I’ve damaged the baby, much appreciated x

At six weeks, almost certainly the alcohol has done nothing (look up info about placenta, not even attached in the early stages, and development of organs not really started, so alcohol doesnt do much. I found out I was pregnant at 5 weeks after a very boozy Xmas, no problem at all.

I honestly think you have to talk to your partner about the pregnancy. Having an abortion without telling him, hmmm... do you think it is something you could put behind you and forget, or would it sit there in your heart and mind festering, and make you feel bad?

We don't know you, so MN folk can give advice generally, but if you possibly can talk to a trusted friend IRL. At six weeks, time is on your side and there's no rush to decide immediately.