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Feeling peed off at work

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Feelinglikepoop · 17/03/2021 21:55

NC as outing but I’m up for a promotion with another person. It’s literally between us two and I know I won’t get it.
It’s not said but the other person has been lined up for the role by being given certain tasks which will only benefit them. I have been asking for these types of tasks for ages and get given absolutely rubbish ones but yet I ask for feedback and I’m told I’m amazing at my job... I think sometimes that maybe I’m just a chump and need to be more assertive.
I just hate knowing that I’ve had to put myself through the stresses of applying and wondering and doubting when someone is lined up for it. It’s so frustrating. And I can’t talk to anyone about it as then I’m not being positive and they’ll look down on me. It can be quite a toxic environment.
I don’t even know if I’ll get any replies but just needed to vent!
But our bosses are making it obvious the job will go to the other person, with just little things that they are saying and doing. They can’t even be subtle about it.
Anyone else been through this?

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MirandaWestsNewBFF · 18/03/2021 21:15

Oh that sucks. I’m really sorry. All I can suggest is that, if it does go to the other candidate, you make sure you get strong feedback from the selection panel. Ask them what you would have had to have done differently to be the chosen candidate.

DingBat101 · 18/03/2021 21:19

Yep. Nothing you can do apart from look for another job and if you get it you can use it to negotiate, if they value you they'll pay you more/give you more responsibility or if not you leave and take the new job.

workoholic · 21/03/2021 17:03

If you know you won't get it and they are geared up for it, why bother applying and wasting your time? Been on this page with promos before, certain people are just 'favourites' and the apple of managements eye. I honestly just recommend leaving. Don't waste your time - mental health is more important, and from experience with me and many colleagues who have been through it, its impacting you more than you probably realise! You deserve better.

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Feelinglikepoop · 21/03/2021 17:07

Thanks all.

I didn’t get it. Was told my application was excellent and it was super close but was because the other person had done certain things that I hadn’t done.
The other person had done these things because they speak a different language... I was never going to get it. But it was never advertised that we had to speak a certain language.
But bugger it... onwards and upwards.

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Deedyn · 21/03/2021 17:11

I’ve had something similar like that happen to me in the past now.
At least you know how things will pan out but I suggest you take it in your stride, accept it and then move on and look after yourself. They certainly are not!

workoholic · 21/03/2021 17:14

Honestly, unless those bosses plan on leaving/moving, don't bother hanging around waiting to be messed around again. There are so many opportunities out there.

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Feelinglikepoop · 21/03/2021 17:14

You’re right @Deedyn x

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Smudgeis13 · 21/03/2021 17:16

I’ve found that if you are really good at your job they want you to carry on doing that job.

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Feelinglikepoop · 25/03/2021 21:07

I applied for a job on Tuesday and have an interview in a few weeks ! Super chuffed

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workingfortheclampdown · 25/03/2021 21:11

Well done, good luck!

MirandaWestsNewBFF · 25/03/2021 21:39

@Feelinglikepoop

I applied for a job on Tuesday and have an interview in a few weeks ! Super chuffed
Ah congratulations!
memberofthewedding · 25/03/2021 22:03

I know how you feel because similar happened to me in the past.

I was qualified in a certain profession by an older system of qualifications. I was also highly experienced and able. Then the "new" universities began to offer degrees in this subject where they had not existed before. I was discriminated against time and time again because newcomers to the organization I worked in had a shitty little bit of paper I did not have. A degree. Often not even a good one.

I recall applying for a job in the organization for which I had certain specialized qualifications - rather like your rival had their special language. However it was given to someone who had neither experience not specialist qualifications - simply because he had a degree. That was when I decided to leave and return to education.

I ended with a 1st class degree, masters and doctorate and then became an academic. At least it gave me the opportunity to find out how good I was, and the satisfaction that my own "bits of paper" were the best obtainable.

Congrats on your interview and the best of luck. One day an interviewer will appreciate your qualities.

BigPaperBag · 26/03/2021 09:40

I had that sort of thing in the first ever OT job I went after graduating. I arrived early and I sat opposite this woman who announced smugly that she was the OT assistant at the department which immediately put me on the back foot. The interviewers came out and practically licked her arse and then to top it off, the fire alarm went off during her interview so I got to see the 3 of them laughing and joking. I didn’t get the job and whilst I’ll never know if she did, I would be absolutely amazed if she didn’t 😂

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Feelinglikepoop · 26/03/2021 13:00

I’ve been told before things like “we give so and so this opportunity on another team. We know you’re so good with your current team and so reliable and know the staff it’s better if bla bla bla “
So f them and I’ll take myself elsewhere

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