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Scared of Promotion

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Charlie1256 · 01/03/2021 19:43

Hello,

today I had a talk with my boss about my recent development in the firm since I joined. He said that except for one big mistake I have been getting better and better. Now due to changes in our department new posts with higher salary and responsibilities are open and he said I am the first in row to get promoted (as soon as I pass a test).

It would be good news normally but I think to myself that can't take that speech very seriously. One Factor being that there are five positions open and only five of us have the needed qualifications...so sooner or later I would have gotten the position anyways. I think that I am only first cause I am longer in the firm than the rest. Not because of good work or something. The other factor being that a colleague of mine got a little better position and only he was asked. Only difference to me: 1 day more experience and being flawless in his work. So, I can't help but think: "If I had that much potential wouldn't you have asked me, too ?"

The other toxic thought I have is the fear that I will fail. What can I do get rid of this fear ?

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MirandaWestsNewBFF · 03/03/2021 12:51

Focus on the good feedback that you’ve had. They won’t promote you unless they believe in you, which is ppt sounds like they do - so believe in yourself, too.

I recommend reading Tara Mohr’s book Playing Big. You can get it on Kindle and it has some great strategies for dealing with these fearful thoughts.

If you need additional help, I’m an independent career coach and I offer confidence booster sessions, either individually or as a package. I do some one to one work to help you understand why you think you might fail and then we put some strategies in place to support you to feel and act with more confidence. Happy to answer any questions if you want to PM me.

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