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Only giving one week's notice

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Arghlife · 20/02/2021 17:46

Will try and give as much information as possible. I'm a live in nanny. I do have a contract that says I need to give a month's notice. However, I only want to give a week.
The backstory is, the parents have separated. I've moved to the new home with the mum and children. Whilst I have still been working my hours, I have only been doing it when the children is with the mum, as before now, the dad hasn't asked to use me at his new place.
I can't work for the dad now, I'm getting really anxious. The last 2 years have been emotional as both parents have used me, he's told me things and made it clear that if I told the mum, it's a sackable offence. A year and a half ago I went to the doctors, breaking down in tears with how it was affecting me.

I honestly don't think he will demand me to work a month, but I'm not sure how to put it into the resignation letter.
Can I just put for personal reasons? There are many reasons how I think the contract has been broken by my employer, but I have to be careful in how things are worded as, to be honest, he's scary. He's powerful and I don't want to make things more difficult.

Thank you

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ChateauMargaux · 21/02/2021 13:41

Oops.. I thought this was in the nanny section.. you have already posted it in employment issues.. my mistake

Arghlife · 21/02/2021 14:34

I don't think I can wait for the dad to decide he doesn't want or need me, the mum has already suggested redundancy. He's not the type to pay out for things unless he has to or wants to.

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flowery · 21/02/2021 17:59

If you currently live at the new house with the mum and the children, and will continue to do exactly the same job in the same location, it should be a TUPE transfer. Your employment rights and continuous service will all transfer with you, and I assume the mum will be happy to honour that.

However, the dad (employer 1) will need to agree that the role is transferring to the mum (employer 2). I would suggest that is discussed between them and you have nothing to do with it. If employer 2 wants to take on the responsibility for an employee currently employed by employer 1, that's not something the employee herself should communicate.

If he refuses and insists on continuing to pay you himself that could become tricky - I can't see how you could argue that your role has transferred against his will. But in those circumstances you could then resign with immediate effect, agreeing with the mum in advance that she will honour your previous service as being continuous. The outcome in practical terms for you would be the same.

Arghlife · 22/02/2021 14:35

Thank you to everyone who has replied. I really thought about it last night and I've decided to fully move on. Have given both parents a month's notice. Children don't know yet and I know that that's going to be the real tear jerker, but I know deep down that it's for the best. 12 years...it's hard. I've been with them since the oldest was only 6 months, and there's 3 of them. Going to take some time off and have some much needed time to myself. Thanks

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ChateauMargaux · 22/02/2021 17:46

Good luck!! Make sure you get a good reference. And enjoy your time off.

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