If your child is SICK and you have to stay at home do phone work and say YOU are ill or DO YOU ADMIT IT IS YOUR CHILD????????

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Just wondering how many parents don't feel they can take the day off if a child has the flu.....

I am fairly lucky in that my employers are understanding on the rare occasions it has happened - I have to take an annual leave day though.

I've done both. When DD and DS were in nursery at the same time, they were always coming home with something or other, and we were forever taking time off. If I'd used A/L every time they were ill I'd have had nothing left, so occasionally I did phone in sick - but not often.

I get 6 days per calender leave for emergency child care/illness and am paid for it - although have been with the company 10 years (since I left school) and happened to sign a very old style contract with lots of perks that other people don't get now.

I am lucky also that my mum/mil look after my dd's the 2 days a week I work and more often than not they still got to nannys house (jn fact last week was teh first time since dd1 was born 3 years ago that I used one of my emergency days as my mum and the dds were ill)

I am lucky we get so many days off to look after dependants so I would tell the truth.

everyone is entitled to time off to care for sick children, just most aren't paid for it. my boss is very flexible, I work an extra hour 2 days a week because it suits me to do so while ds1 is at pre-school, and then the days i've had off for ds2 being ill have been covered by those extra hours so I don't lose pay

I tell the truth. Fortunately I have a very understanding employer (hasn;t always been the case) and dd is rarely ill these days. I do have to take annual leave although I could probably take unpaid leave if I asked to.

The problem with lying is that your own sickness record can end up looking very bad indeed, and many companies including the one I work for now take a very dim view of lots of incidences of sickness.

I say that DS is ill. Either I take it as holiday, or if I can, I take it as a lieu day. If I had no holiday or lieu I would take it as emergency unpaid leave.

I earn them whenever I can and save them up to cover emergencies. Touchwood so far it has only been the odd day. Not quite sure what I would do if it was for several days although atm I suppose I could use my parental leave entitlement as DS is under 5.

I have never said I was sick when the kids were (that I can remember) but DP feels that he has to say he is sick. Being a bloke he feels it is judged harshly even when taking AL to cover. We have to juggle it between us and I am telling you it is getting hard.

Well, if it's any consolation, my DH has problems even admitting he is sick when he is sick, let alone taking time off to look after DS. Luckily it has only happened rarely and I think once he took an afternoon off to look after DS so i could go in to work (I work p/t so that can work quite well).

I can see if you have more than one child and you both work f/t it can become a real problem, even more so when they are school age and so you don;t want to take A/L because you need to take it in the holidays.

take it as parental leave

I take it as leave or TOIL, if DH isn't able to (shiftwork so sometimes easier).

I have an understanding boss in this respect though.

Thankfully it's rare. Me and the lads tend to plan our illnesses around half-term

We haven;t had a holiday in the last 3 years when DS hasn;t been ill, and he has often been ill at weekends

It does make me though when people (men?) persist in pretending to their employers that they don;t have any responsibilities outside of their job, can work silly hours a week, don;t need to be at home at a decent hour to sit down and eat with their family etc..etc..

They are only perpetuating some myth of a fantasy lifestyle none of them live anymore where there is a person at home busily bathing their children and ironing their shirts.

Nothing will change while they are in denial..

Can you say you are working from home? My boss allows this.

i always end up saying ds is ill when in actual fact it is me. when it's me he's not very understanding and thinks i should go in anyway.

I take a days holiday or I work from home.

I'm preening my halo here., although slightly off topic.

Yesterday I was ill and took that as s/l. Today cm is ill ( first time since DS has been there). It would have been easy for me to say I was still sick but have some holidays saved for the occasion and we are very lucky in that DS is generally healthy so I have taken it as holiday.

I would always tell the truth, mainly because I am a hopeless liar, but its all down to luck isn't it, if your DC does have a lot of sick days then its a difficult situation for poor them and also for your work oh and your DPs work as well.

I would say it was the child that was ill.
I am able to do some parts of my job if they are sick but dh also takes days off if I know I can't.
my employer is quite flexible plus I do the wages

Tell the truth and work from home.