Sorry is this is long.
So myself and another worker both had babies at the same time and returned to work at the same time. While on maternity we would talk a lot. One day I asked her is she was adding her A/L to the end of her maternity to extend it. She was like what A/L so I basically had to explain to her that she still gained A/L whilst on maternity. Something work had not mentioned to her and would have kept it hush hush if i didn’t tell her, her rights. So yesterday at work we were sat together working out how much we had/ will have gained between coming back and the new tax year. She got pulled today and was told not to discuss her A/L or any aspects of her contract with me and to only discuss it with her or acas. It made her that angry she broke down in tears as I was the one that stoped her basically being robbed of nearly £2000 worth of leave. Okay work have always said no discussing salary’s which we have stuck to but we are all entitled to the exact same A/L and and have the exact same contract ! So what’s the problem with me discussing MYSELF and someone else discussing their self ! No confidentiality is broken ! She also said she’s noticed that she’s become really close to me and wants to know why. When I was pregnant my manager went to the employee that was hosting my baby shower and told them that I had complained about them. This resulted in my baby shower being cancelled and her leaving the group chat, and deleting everyone on all social media. Even tho I told her that this wasn’t true and our manager was lying;the relationship has never been able to recover. Our manager hates the fact the we speak to each other outside work and we are friends and not just colleges. She does this to twist people’s minds to make them hate one another. She speaks to us like a piece of shit. Tells people off for things that were genuine mistakes in front of people to embarrass them and then wants to know why she’s not invited to outside gatherings or isn’t in the chat ect. I can’t have someone speak to me like I’m a worthless piece of shit and shout at me like a 5 year old and then play happy family friends outside of work. Unfortunately it doesn’t work like that for me. Also we have no HR. Am I technically In my right to discuss myself ! And others to discuss their selves ?
Thanks