How did it change the dynamics of a team if you were promoted?

[BettysSpaghetti]

I work with a small team of around 10. They are all great people and I regard several of them as friends rather than just colleagues.

I am about to become their manager and I’m wondering if it is likely to change my working relationships with the rest of the team. Are they likely to behave differently around me now that I am their boss?

Working on a team where you are buddies with some of them is likely to cause resentment because the basis of the relationship is about to change.

You need to decide if you are prepared to lose their friendship because if you're going to "manage" them, ie have to evaluate their performance at mid- / end of year, you'll either have to be honest if there is something that they need to do differently (in which case, they could take the attitude "who does she think she is?" ) or you sit on the fence and hope they deliver in their role. IME it's impossible to be "friends" with people who report to you, some degree of distance has to be maintained.

Thanks for replying.

You’ve confirmed what I thought. I want to be a good manager and I’ll have to accept that will mean having a degree of separation from the team. The manager that is leaving was honestly the best manager I’ve ever had and I could see that meant her maintaining a degree of separation from the team.

If push comes to shove I am prepared for my relationship with other team members will change and I will accept the fact that will also mean losing some friendships.

You can be friendly but not friends as before.
I had a colleague become the manager abs she went all hoity toity and weird. Dont do that!

My colleague was promoted to manager and it was a bit of a disaster at first because she tried to stay friends with everyone. It meant some people didn't respect her authority (though most did) and made life hard for her.
However, another colleague was promoted to manager in another team I was in and she immediately set out her intentions/expectations of us, and although a few folks didn't like it, they all respected her authority from the off. It probably also helped that our previous boss had been completely uninterested in the team's development whereas new boss had our backs and got things moving.