HR help

[Idole13]

I currently work in a small office, there’s 4 of us in total in the office.

I usually end up working one day every week with the same person, I went to my manager last year about working this day as I didn’t want to work along side this m person as he never worked, left everything for me to do while sat in front of me and would talk about his younger days of ‘shagging, how he would love a wee 16 year old blonde with big tits in the office along with some graphic sexual stories.’

My manager brought someone outside who is HR and they informed this could be deemed as sexual harassment in the office. He was took out for coffee and then a few days later waited until I was on my own and pulled me up saying “do I make you feel uncomfortable, I don’t think I have said anything wrong and this certainly isn’t a me too thing” I was put on the spot and panicked and just said I didn’t think his chat was appropriate for a working office.

That was then brushed under the rug, along with jokes made from my manager about getting this person a picture of myself for his desk etc as if it’s a joke.

Fast forward to this year and although the sexual chat not happening, same old stuff where he’s not giving me a breather, sitting right in front of me or behind me, making me feel uncomfortable and during this pandemic where social distance is supposed to be in place.

I went to my manager and advised I no longer wanted to work this day, I couldn’t take anymore. Manager was very apologetic for putting my in this situation and allowing it to continue, day dropping was agreed. I went into work the following week and was informed it now doesn’t suit.

I will be going back in this day, because my manager had a ‘serious’ chat with this man and he was very upset and couldn’t sleep. (I’ve not been sleeping night before the day I have to work with this person for a very long time).

So basically I have to tell this man to ‘fuck off’ from my manager, all because he brings in money for the business and I don’t!

Sorry for the big rant, it’s causing too many arguments at home to discuss.
Do I need to just tell him to ‘fuck off’ and get on with things and stop being a moaner. Shouldn’t be feeling this rubbish due to work 😔

I would be keeping a diary of every thing. Also asking him to get out of your personal space every time.
Inform your manager that you are keeping a record if everything and that there are ongoing issues which you are documenting.

I have been keeping a diary, thank you.

Not fuck off but "Excuse me you are too close and making me feel uncomfortable, please move away and keep to social distancing rules".

And as pp said, log everything. Every time he gets too close, any time he does not comply. Also worth logging the work he isn't doing.

this person never worked, left everything for me to do ... he brings in money for the business and I don’t!
How does this stack up?

Thank you, I have been logging stuff.

My manager knows what this man is like, he is fully aware. It’s extremely frustrating as he brings money in to the business, so they are turning a blind eye.

I’m back in the office with him again next month, so will see how things go.

Thank use.

He sells, he then doesn’t proceed to do the paper work that follows.

I help with another side of the business but he then manipulates every situation so I do his stuff??

Hello OP do u have good prospects If you leave? You might be able to achieve an agreed settlement agreement’ exit. I’m not saying it’s fair that he’d stay and you’d go but if they won’t sack him because he generates £ it might be an outcome that ultimately means you are happier. Usually you’d submit a grievance as the first step and even if it doesn’t result in an exit it might help you secure an agreement that you don’t work the same day as him. You have more leverage if you have over 2 years service (103 weeks exactly) but if he’s breaching social distancing you can argue he’s endangering h&s as well as other stuff - harassment. Just by asking them for a copy of their grievance process you might effectively show them you are serious about getting something done. If possible get advice from an employment lawyer.

manipulates every situation so I do his stuff??
Either refuse to do it (or refer upwards every. single. time.) or take the male approach - do it so badly that you don't get asked again.

@senua. Think I’m going to have to take this approach, just worried it backfires on me.

@ZowieCavie. I have been working with this company for over 2 years, I am going to enquire about working from home to see what they say. I am actively looking and applying for new jobs as well.

Thanks for all your input everyone.