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struggling with work

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Londonnight · 01/10/2020 07:41

I work in a very, very busy school kitchen full time. Our work load had risen massively since covid as obviously everything has changed.
We have lost staff due to the pressure we are under, and the staff that are left have very low moral as we have more pressure on us to keep everything the same as it was pre covid with no one understanding the extra work load.
So we are working with less staff, but still expected to do the same amount [ and more work than before ] in the same amount of time.

We have narcissist manager who is very much a yes person to senior staff with no regard to how we are managing, so again we are getting extra work daily. If they say jump, manager says how high! They are impossible to talk to as it just turns back to how they are feeling.

I am exhausted and extremely stressed with all we are going through. I am not sleeping as this plays on my mind all the time and I actually dread going into work. I am getting headaches daily which I feel are stress related. We have no HR as such, so there is no one senior we can go to. Anytime one of us has tried to talk to senior management, they immediately speak to our manager who then berates us for bypassing them.
I am in my 60's and just don't know how long I can go on like this [ I have no pension so need to work ]. I have tried finding another job, but given my age and lack of qualifications and I need full time work, it is almost impossible to find anything. If I thought this was going to be temporary I could just about manage to get through, but I don't think it will and this will become our new normal.
I don't know what I am asking really, just so stressed I need someone to know how I am feeing. I am single with no one to talk this over with which doesn't help.

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sonicbook · 01/10/2020 07:48

I'm so sorry I have no help for you but I'm in a similar situation work wise. Things are exceptionally hard just now. Sadly I've had to accept that my manger won't change and that I can't change my situation so now I'm going to try and work on changing my mindset. It's the only thing I have in my control. I'm not quite sure how to do that yet right enough.

Thanks for you.

Londonnight · 01/10/2020 07:57

sonicbook, I am sorry you are going through similar. It is just so hard isn't it.
I wish I could find a way to change my mindset. I am so worried about having a breakdown at the moment, I feel that close.
Good luck to you. I wish our bosses valued us better than they do and realised how well we do.

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dooratheexplorer · 01/10/2020 22:50

Sorry to hear you are struggling. That sounds very hard.

Just keep looking for another job. One will come up at some point. Indeed is a really good website.

In the meantime, the only thing that you can really control is your reaction. So, be kind to yourself. Don't beat yourself up! Have a few mantras that you repeat to yourself during the day....
I'm doing my best
I'm going as fast as I can

Do what you can but don't kill yourself in the process. If there aren't enough people for the work then tough! Do not do the work of three people otherwise they will never recruit to replace the staff who have left.

whatisforteamum · 13/10/2020 08:02

I work in hospitality so know how it is in kitchens.Everyone has had to adapt and I am sorry you feel overworked.
Why not see your GP for advice and perhaps get signed off if you do feel it has become too much .
I too am having second thoughts about my job and venting on here helps to know you are not alone.I agree you can only change your mindset while you look for something else.

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