Didn't get the job - again

[WildOrchids67]

Needing to get this out because I'm just feeling pretty upset and can't seem to stop crying.

I found out today that I didn't get a new role at work that I applied for. To be honest I wasn't expecting to, the interview didn't go badly, but I didn't smash it either so not getting it wasn't a surprise.

But I'm just feeling so frustrated that I'm applying for things and not getting them. It's not that I'm not capable, and any gaps in knowledge would come with training and experience, but the interviews are a point scoring exercise and I just never seem to score high enough.

It's not so much not getting the job that's upset me, but the increasing feeling that I'm just not good enough. After a failed interview last year, my manager said we'd spend some time going over the intervirw examples I had and doing some mock interviews for next time. Has that happened? Has it fuck.

My own manager was off today but I did mention to another manager I needed to take a little bit of time to go and feel sorry for myself (I think she knew I meant I needed a good cry) and I'm going to have a proper chat with her tomorrow about how I'm feeling.

I know I'm good at my current role, and I'm often asked to help others if the managers are busy, but it feels like I never get any recognition for the good stuff I do. If my manager isn't doing much to help me progress, does he just not have any faith in me? I know I shouldn't, but I really need the positive feedback and praise from others to help keep me motivated. That's just the way I am.

Sorry, but I don't have anyone to talk to as I live alone and I'm just sobbing in my bed just now.

[catnoir1]

Ask your manager to go over like they said they would.

So sorry you didn't get the job, it can really hit your confidence hard. Keep going, you will get where you want to be.

[FTMF30]

I feel your pain OP. There's only so much rejection a person can take.

What do you do to prepare for interviews? Do you watch YouTube videos about how to answer questions? Do you use the STAR method? Do you have a bank of really good scenarios/examples of great work/behaviour you have displayed to answer any questions thrown your way?

Also, how much thought do you put into your body language and questions you get to ask after the interview? These are things that are sometimes forgotten.

Hamg in there. I appreciate it is so hard, especially at the moment. 💐

[BoudiccaAnn]

Try to find a mentor. Preferably someone in your field...but doesn't necessarily have to be. Someone with lots of experience in the world of work who can talk through your issues without being directly involved in your specific situation and give you good advice (about how to better prepare for interviews as well as other career tips). There are a lot of senior professionals with time on their hands these days. You could also connect remotely (via Zoom) for example.

[WildOrchids67]

I hadn't thought of YouTube videos, that's a good idea. The interview was done over Teams, so I'm not sure about body language, but I'm usually pretty expressive with my hands anyway.

I've got a lot of examples written down in the STAR format which I think are good, and I had them to hand during the interview so I could refer to them, but maybe the examples aren't strong enough or I'm not delivering the answers very well.

My field isn't specialised at all, it's customer service, but after 13 years doing it I really need something else. I'm happy to stay with the company, I like working there, but I've outgrown my role.

[Blulorry]

How long have you been having no luck with interviews? I’m sure you will get there OP.